Dont have a clue what I'm at!

LegacyUser

Hey all, long time boardsie going unreg. for this long-winded post.

I basically have no idea what I'm doing with my life!

Let me elaborate: Ever since I can remember I could never commit to anything be it a sport, new hobby,homework or study and what have you. I would always try out new things, and have a strong interest whilst doing it but my interest never lasts till more than a year or two tops.

I didn't give a crap about the leaving cert and came out of it with very ordinary grades and well at the moment im in college doing a course which I thought I'd love well I couldnt be more wrong. Things arent working out in it. I have no friends in my class and the work is quite challenging. I've just lost all interest in my course, it just seems completely irrelevant to my life. I just dont have a clue what I'm doing with myself, and this is causing me to stress out completely.

I feel like I can't get out of this course as my parents have put so much money into it and I feel like I'm trapped. For instance a family member would ask me 'Hows college' and im all smiles saying its going great where as in reality it couldn't be going worse. I've already failed first year and I'm currently repeating it. I'm like a swan, on the surface everything seems grand but under the water im kicking like hell.

I would just lie awake like tonight and get no sleep just wondering will I ever finish my college course what will become of me, and I kind of know myself that I wont, and if you believe something will never happen, it will never happen.

Now you might say 'why not just call it quits?' but then what? There are no jobs going at the moment and in this day and age you need a 3rd level degree if you want to go places. I don't want to end up working in McDonalds for the rest of my life. I want to be a winner.

I said I would have to write this now as if I woke in the morning I wouldn't be so precise.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for in this post, more venting than anything.
Thanks for reading. Mr.Confused.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

If you're in first year college, you're what - 18? 19? Plenty of time to discover new things. Most people rarely discover what they want to do until much older in life.

Is taking a sabbatical an option? Go travelling for a bit, experience the world, do some voluntary work - nothing that commits long-term, just a month or two.

Keep trying new things, and don't be afraid to quit. And just because you take a job in McDonald's dowan't mean you're going to be there for life...

XXNikXX

If you really hate your course then you shouldn't be dong it... I know it's scary leaving and you don't want to let your family down an all the rest but you have to do what you have to do. In the long run the only person who an make you happy and content with your life is you.

You need to stop and rethink things. Some time off to think and try new things could give you a chance to discover what you really want to do. I was in exactly the same boat, hadn't a clue what to do, took a year out, had a good look at my life and now im in college doing a course i love.

Remember your young and have all the time in the world, good luck

LegacyUser

You want to be a winner but you dont want to put in the hard work.. Who is paying for your course? If your parents have already paid for you for 2 years then get your head stuck in the books and dont waste their money entirely. I notice that so many people take 3rd level education as a god given right in this country. Its all down to the spoilt celtic cubs...

You are lucky to be getting this chance to make the most of it.

LegacyUser

Hey guys OP here again,

Thanks everyone for the advice, im going to take it all on board and have a rethink of my situation. Sorry if I came of a little condensing in my first post about people working in McDonalds, fair play to them if its only a stopgap job to better things.

I am a good person I just feel I have a lot of potential and have a lot to give. As the OP described I just dont know as to what that is yet.

And gugugugugu you could be right, maybe I am just lazy by nature and just need to put the head down. I don't take for granted what my parents have done for me, I love them for it, they would do anything for me. I just don't want to disappoint them.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

jamesdean09 wrote: »

Hey guys OP here again,

Thanks everyone for the advice, im going to take it all on board and have a rethink of my situation. Sorry if I came of a little condensing in my first post about people working in McDonalds, fair play to them if its only a stopgap job to better things.

I am a good person I just feel I have a lot of potential and have a lot to give. As the OP described I just dont know as to what that is yet.

And gugugugugu you could be right, maybe I am just lazy by nature and just need to put the head down. I don't take for granted what my parents have done for me, I love them for it, they would do anything for me. I just don't want to disappoint them.

There's a difference between laziness and lack of interest. If it's laziness, then yes - head down. If it's not, then there's no point wasting two years of your life doing something you don't want to do. There's no point in being a winner if you don't like the game.

wylo

guguggugu wrote: »

You want to be a winner but you dont want to put in the hard work.. Who is paying for your course? If your parents have already paid for you for 2 years then get your head stuck in the books and dont waste their money entirely. I notice that so many people take 3rd level education as a god given right in this country. Its all down to the spoilt celtic cubs...

You are lucky to be getting this chance to make the most of it.

I dont think this is a fair statement at all. I am probably what you would call a "spoilt celtic cub". I wanted to work straight away after school but was pressured by parents who were pressured by modern society that I HAD to go to college. I did a course, hated it, completed it and am now working in a completely different field. I dont blame my parents for wasting their money and my time, I blame society. Young people may think 3rd level education is a god given right, but thats because every young person is pressured into 3rd level education. Some parents pay for the courses, which is great and nice of them, and yes they are doing it for their kids benefit,but the pressure now on young people to do a course and to do well is unreal.
However, OP , it really depends on how long you have left, if you hate it that much and you have 3 years left, leave now, before you waste any more of your parents money. But if you've only a year left or something stick it out. Put up with the misery for a bit longer and then you can look into getting a job elsewhere.

Massive Muscles

You want to be a winner but you dont want to put in the hard work..

This sums up a whole generation of young Irish from 18-30. If you haven't put the work in from the age of 16 to be the absolute best you can then you will probably have to live with the consequences.

eskimo

"Quitters never win, but winners know when to cut their losses."