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What to do?

  • 02-01-2010 8:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi

    First time posting on this so all new!! Have a problem with my relationship. Have been with the same guy for 8 years both in our mid to late 20's so we both dated 1/2 people before. Everything was great until about a year ago & its become very difficult.

    BAsically he's become very uncommunicative, he answers everything with a mumbled "yeah/no" never really bothers asking how I am & really he seems to have lost his spark. He has withdrawn from his circle of friends & whilst i encourage he mixes more he stays at home mostly when I go out.

    Now while i still love him dearly I feel like his negativity is starting to affect me & I am becomming the same. A number of things have happenned in the last few months & he hasnt really been supportivie as a bf should be. He said over 4 years ago that he was slighlty depressed but came out of that. Now when i suggest he may be back to that he snaps at me. I cant suggest anything & to be honest i say the least amount that I can to him as he snaps very easily.

    I really dont know what to do. I have been thinking very strongly about ending it but then i think back on how great we USED to be and think maybe we just need to work on it, however i have tried & he isnt cooperative. I also would be weary of how he would react to a breakup. I really dont know what to do.

    Any advice?


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  • #2
    starchild
    Closed Accounts Posts: 211 ✭✭starchild


    its hard to engage with somebody when they refuse to have a proper conversation, i think all you can do is sit him down and explain how upset you are and that you are becoming unsure about your relationship. This would hopefully encourage him to open up a bit.

    Dont let this go on, he may have something on his mind or it could be just a natural change in his personality. Either way you are entitled to an explanation as to whats happening.

    i would definitely say give it your all to working it out before you go ahead and end it


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks Starchild

    I think to sit him down and explain is the best approach, only problem is I tried to do this a few months back and I think he saw where it was going and before I had a chance to explain he said "right ok, lets just break up"

    He knows I dont want to give up that easily so of course I said I didnt want to break up and tried to get him talking but it didnt work.

    I definitely dont see a future the way things are but I want to do the best to try to solve things.


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