New Year Blues

LegacyUser

Just want to get this off my chest.

I'm a male mid 30's, married with children, good secure job not hit too hard by the recession.

Every New Years eve i get a bit depressed and look back on the past and remember days gone by, i always feel a bit sad at the end of a year and the start of a new one and the thought of getting a year older.

When i was growing up i had a lot of friends at school and in my street and i had the greatest fun any kid and teenager ever had, i went to college and worked hard and got a job, i met a girl and married and lost contact with all my old friends, we all kind of went our own ways, married, moved away, etc.

I do not socialise in the pubs i stay at home with my family i do a sport and meet people there.

But I miss the old days of growing up with my friends and having fun, those days are long gone never to return.

I just feel like i'm turning in to my parents.

Sorry for the rant just need to get the New Year blues off my chest

omahaid

I know how you feel, heading that way myself, I'll let you know when I get an answer myself.

unreggd

New Year Blues wrote: »

But I miss the old days of growing up with my friends and having fun, those days are long gone never to return

By saying / believing that, you're putting yourself in a box

They don't have to be gone, you can get them back

Chase them up on Facebook, or text if you have numbers

I think you always need your own friends

Too many people concentrate on the family life 100%, or there's couples who are always together 24/7

Be a good friend, and [hopefully] you should get the same in return

shinny

I think unreggd made some good points, Facebook is a great place to try and find some old friends. Maybe organise a school reunion? We did that a few years back and I met up with some old friends, we meet up regularly now.

What about your work colleagues, do you socialise with them?

alias06

I feel the exact same. I feel really down, just kicking myself for all the money I spent stupidly in December. God, January is definitely the worst month of the year.

LegacyUser

New Year Blues wrote: »

Just want to get this off my chest.

I'm a male mid 30's, married with children, good secure job not hit too hard by the recession.

Every New Years eve i get a bit depressed and look back on the past and remember days gone by, i always feel a bit sad at the end of a year and the start of a new one and the thought of getting a year older.

When i was growing up i had a lot of friends at school and in my street and i had the greatest fun any kid and teenager ever had, i went to college and worked hard and got a job, i met a girl and married and lost contact with all my old friends, we all kind of went our own ways, married, moved away, etc.

I do not socialise in the pubs i stay at home with my family i do a sport and meet people there.

But I miss the old days of growing up with my friends and having fun, those days are long gone never to return.

I just feel like i'm turning in to my parents.

Sorry for the rant just need to get the New Year blues off my chest

If it's any consolation I'll be 37 in April and I'm still single and have no kids. I also live at home with my parents and I couldn't find a job so I'm back in uni for another year to upskill. The sum of my possessions is a laptop, ipod and books. And I owe the credit union and bank some €25,000.

I think you might be forgetting the emptiness of going out with the lads and doing the same thing ad nauseam. It gets tiring, which is a large part of the reason why people move on to marriage. I went out to a pub last night for the first time in ages and I would much rather have had friends over to my house; the noise blaring everywhere made it impossible to have any decent quality of conversation. I only went out of obligation to a friend. Maybe it's a case for you of far away fields are greener? I think you should get it out of your system anyway if only in order to appreciate the great things which you clearly have at present; people often have to go away to come back to something.

You could set new targets, create new plans for where you and your family want to be. Fill your free time with something more constructive, something that you can feel a sense of achievement from every day or week. No better time to start that than now, 1 January 2010.