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Is it ever a good idea to get back in touch with an ex??

  • 30-12-2009 7:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys,

    After having broken up with my ex about 10 weeks ago (she initiated the break-up), I have had no contact with her since Christmas. She wanted to stay friends but I didn't as I was pretty heartbroken. I deleted her and her friends from Facebook etc.

    Over the festive period, I got weak, and sent her a Merry Christmas text. I also added her on facebook.

    She proceeded to add me, and a few hours later, she deleted and blocked me.
    The texts back were short, and curt.

    The night after, she rings me at 3am, and unintentionally leaves a voicemail. I call her, but no answer, and after texting her, she claims it was one of her friends with her phone. I didn't tell her I could hear her by herself on my voicemail, which she unintentionally left.

    It's a little weird, yes, but I want to be friends with her. I want to talk to her. And I think she wants to be friends with me.

    My question to the boards populace is, is it ever a good idea to get back in touch with an ex? And if so, when?

    As always, thank you, and pardon the long post.
    121


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  • #2
    hollis12
    Closed Accounts Posts: 176 ✭✭hollis12


    unreg1212121 wrote: »
    Hi guys,

    After having broken up with my ex about 10 weeks ago (she initiated the break-up), I have had no contact with her since Christmas. She wanted to stay friends but I didn't as I was pretty heartbroken. I deleted her and her friends from Facebook etc.

    Over the festive period, I got weak, and sent her a Merry Christmas text. I also added her on facebook.

    She proceeded to add me, and a few hours later, she deleted and blocked me.
    The texts back were short, and curt.

    The night after, she rings me at 3am, and unintentionally leaves a voicemail. I call her, but no answer, and after texting her, she claims it was one of her friends with her phone. I didn't tell her I could hear her by herself on my voicemail, which she unintentionally left.

    It's a little weird, yes, but I want to be friends with her. I want to talk to her. And I think she wants to be friends with me.

    My question to the boards populace is, is it ever a good idea to get back in touch with an ex? And if so, when?

    As always, thank you, and pardon the long post.
    121

    if you dont mind me saying not if your ex is into playing games like she seems to be


  • #3
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Only get back in touch if you are completely willing to just be friends. If even the smallest part of you is hoping that it might lead to you getting back together, don't get in touch with her.

    She sounds like a bit of a head f*** to be honest so you're probably just as well without her. Do you really want to get back in touch and see her off out with another guy (I'm assuming because she initiated the break there's a high probability of her having been with someone else by now).

    I'm also saying this because if the thought of her with someone else makes you feel sick, then you're not ready to be friends. It's only when you couldn't give two f***ks what she's at that you are ready to be friends. Not a millisecond earlier.

    Good luck.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I find many of the ppl here on boards to be very anti-women in their comments, very quick to call the girl a head f'ck and in this case it's completely unwarranted and a bit harsh.

    have a look at the facts before commenting
    -HE texted her over Christmas
    -HE added her on facebook
    -she DELETED and BLOCKED him

    She doesn't want contact right now - she's not messing you about, she's not trying to f'ck u over - she added you on facebook and left u a message AFTER u'd initiated contact because she probably still cares for you and weakened, wanting contact, then realised better. she's doing a good thing by ignoring ur texts and removing you from facebook - it feels like an insult, but it's not its better for both of you in the long run. Leave things be man, let urselves get over it, after a few months or how long it takes, you might want to be friends, or you'll likely have more perspective and realise it hurts too much to see her and not have that connection of lovers or you'll get back to being friends. take grandmasters last bit of advice - only when u dont give two f'cks about what she's up to can you initiate contact again


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