Sex Positions= Insecurity

lifeishard

well me and my bf have been trying many different sex positions because after 2 years, we are kinda getting a little bored.

we used to do just missionary and i wasn't really bothered with that but now my bf just wants to do more exciting things, i wasn't complaining until it became too much..

he just basically wants to f***k me all the time. fair enough a couple times a week, we could do that but we never seem to be intimate or anything like that .

i have already posted on another forum saying i need sex every day which is true, and i know people are going to say well your demanding it everyday and thats it my fault but my bf never wants to make love as they say lol

he basically just wants to F***k me.. does anyone else have that problem ??

i have talked to him about it but he says im over thinking it but the last time we made love was months ago

i feel very insecure that he just wants to have sex this way.. why cant he just do missionary every once in awhile and he knows this is upsetting me

Maple

Moved from TLL, you may get a better response here.

Maple.

A quiet one

That reads like a series of mixed messages, which suggests your BF could also be just as confused as I am.

To paraphrase what you're saying:
I want romantic intimacy, so we've started trying new positions because after 2 years we were getting bored

Sorry, but if I've translated that correctly, it still doesn't even make sense because romantic intimacy is not governed by "positions" and is not even limited to sex.


To continue:
What you are also saying amounts too:
I want to shag every day, because I need a shag everyday, but my boyfriend shags me everyday.

Ugh?

Perhaps what you are saying is that he is focusing on his own sexual satisfaction and ignoring yours.
I'm sure there are a few women here more able to advice you on changing that scenario.

Problem is, as I read it, that you're not bothered about your sexual needs, its romantic intimacy you want, and not "sex" even though that's what you're saying. So he could be trying to meet your sexual needs but is pissing against the wind, sort to speak.

In this context; The word sex, to a guy at least, is about carnal pleasures, titillation, being horny, about getting your end away, about the hump and grind, the lust, the whole build-up to it. And to some extent, being wanted that way.
Perhaps others can explain it better.

And perhaps as a starting point you could "experiment' with him staying in until you body has expelled him naturally. If nothing else, he'll want to occupy himself and so you might get this romantic intimacy you seem to be in asking for.

Apologies if I'm way off course.