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new relationship confused!

  • 29-12-2009 8:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all - regular poster, unreg for this one.
    So here goes! Long term relationship ended in August, no mess, we both knew it was over for a while. Anyway, pretty much straight away ended up scoring with a friend of mine, which developed into a relationship. We had a few dramas, mainly me being a bit unsure due to the fact that i had come out of a LTR. Which brings me to now. I know i want to be with him, and really like him but he seems to have cooled off. Now i'm pi**ed off because he did all the pursuing and made it clear he wanted a relationship with me.
    I'm afraid of wrecking what we have by getting really cold and distant now (due to being hurt before). Ah this is a mess!!!
    How do i approach the subject without sounding too serious?
    Help!!!


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  • #2
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    If he's lost interest now I'd say it was probably your indecisiveness at the start is what caused it. He said he was interested but you admit yourself your head was all over the place. It might have been better to stay away from guys/relationships until you got your head straight for exactly this reason.

    It's hard to say if he will be interested now. I was in a situation where a girl flip flopped between wanting something to happen and not wanting something to happen. It completely did my head in and looking back now, I should have just walked away at the start. It's possible he might be thinking the same thing and just gave up as he put himself out there when he said he wanted a relationship and you effectively rejected him.

    I guess you could explain the situation to him but if you do, make sure you accept the possibility beforehand that you may have missed your chance with this guy. It could very well work out. Just don't get your hopes up in-case he's no longer interested.

    All the best.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Help!!! wrote: »
    Hi all - regular poster, unreg for this one.
    So here goes! Long term relationship ended in August, no mess, we both knew it was over for a while. Anyway, pretty much straight away ended up scoring with a friend of mine, which developed into a relationship. We had a few dramas, mainly me being a bit unsure due to the fact that i had come out of a LTR. Which brings me to now. I know i want to be with him, and really like him but he seems to have cooled off. Now i'm pi**ed off because he did all the pursuing and made it clear he wanted a relationship with me.
    I'm afraid of wrecking what we have by getting really cold and distant now (due to being hurt before). Ah this is a mess!!!
    How do i approach the subject without sounding too serious?
    Help!!!

    OMG you sure your not me. I am in exactly the same boat. Not sure whats going on with him. I hope he is not put off cos me and my ex finished in August cos I am mad about this guy now.. fingers crossed..


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