Friend Problem

LegacyUser

Ive got 2 'friends' atm. One of which doesnt bother calling me hardly ever, maby see him once every 2 months. In between that he hangs around with his other friends, going out every friday/saturday night while I stay in (dont mind it too much tbh but its nice to be asked) . Havent seen him over the holidays at all. Will prob see him when new years is over and pretend everything is fine with our friendship.
What should I do?

a - Tell him to f**k off, thus leaving me with one good friend, who is also a bit of a prick tbh.
b - Act nice, be pissed off with him for another month or 2 or 3 til I see him again.

What I really need is new friends but until then Im stuck with these pricks unfortunately, being friendless really isnt an option.

LegacyUser

I think you know this already but I'm afraid this guy isn't a friend. Friends don't do that to each other.

I can however understand that having him around is better than nothing, so as he seems to be happy to use you whenever suits, use him right back. By all means go out with him (inviting yourself if necessary!) but take it as an opportunity to meet people, get chatting and find friends who are more worthy of you.

If you're into sports, reading, fishing, whatever, join up with some like-minded people - I met my best friends in college, probably because we had similar interests.

I don't mean to sound heartless, I'm sure he does like you and everything but just don't be at his beck and call because you can be damn sure he wouldn't drop everything if you needed him.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

I think you know this already but I'm afraid this guy isn't a friend. Friends don't do that to each other.

I can however understand that having him around is better than nothing, so as he seems to be happy to use you whenever suits, use him right back. By all means go out with him (inviting yourself if necessary!) but take it as an opportunity to meet people, get chatting and find friends who are more worthy of you.

If you're into sports, reading, fishing, whatever, join up with some like-minded people - I met my best friends in college, probably because we had similar interests.

I don't mean to sound heartless, I'm sure he does like you and everything but just don't be at his beck and call because you can be damn sure he wouldn't drop everything if you needed him.

Thanks for your reply.
tbh I dont think ill bother with him anymore. Everytime I go to a club with him I end up on my own and getting a taxi home alone. If he calls me, and he will, I think ill just say im busy and let our friendship die.
Its sad because he was one of my oldest friends, knew him since we were little.
Part of life I guess.

Firetrap

I would opt for B, purely because I've found in life that you never know when you'll end up tripping across someone again. Better not to burn your bridges.

It's the nature of friendships though. Even though this guy is one of your oldest friends, you've both changed as you've grown up and it's likely that the only reason you make contact with each other at all now is because of how things used to be.

Hopefully you are in a position to get out there and meet new people. It's time to be proactive, not to sit at home hoping that your "friends" will call

LegacyUser

Firetrap wrote: »

I would opt for B, purely because I've found in life that you never know when you'll end up tripping across someone again. Better not to burn your bridges.

It's the nature of friendships though. Even though this guy is one of your oldest friends, you've both changed as you've grown up and it's likely that the only reason you make contact with each other at all now is because of how things used to be.

Hopefully you are in a position to get out there and meet new people. It's time to be proactive, not to sit at home hoping that your "friends" will call

Good advice, thanks.