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Why can't I "seal the deal"?

LegacyUser · 2009-12-27 18:11:55

Hi, I am a male in my early 20's and I am have always been a bit shy around girls. I was a late bloomer and found it very tough when I was in my early teens to get on the scene with girls when all my friends were kissing at the back of the bike shed etc. Anyway while I eventually started meeting girls I have never been a…

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Hi, I am a male in my early 20's and I am have always been a bit shy around girls. I was a late bloomer and found it very tough when I was in my early teens to get on the scene with girls when all my friends were kissing at the back of the bike shed etc. Anyway while I eventually started meeting girls I have never been a player of any sort but have had some decent success I guess. I have never actually had a relationship though so you could say my encounters with women could be pretty shallow or meaningless but I always get a boost of confidence when with a girl that lasts for a while and then seems to just evaporate. A lot of my friends girlfriends and ex's have always taken a shine to me and sort of thought of me as a bit of a catch but I never really felt this way. I know I am a good looking guy as I have been told this in the past and I look after myself well but I think from my own experience in life, looks won't take you all the way without self confidence. I use humour as a sort of defence mechanism with women coz I can never take myself serious. Last night a girl was literally throwing herself at me and I didn't even do anything about it. I fancied her too but I just couldn't seal the deal so to speak. I can never seem to accept that a girl is actually in to me, its weird. My friend last nite was like 'why didn't you score her' but while I really wanted to I just couldn't make that move. I am so clueless with women all I really know who to do is have a laugh with them but I can never take myself serious. I mean I am not shy really around women as I can usually chat to them easy but I just never have any confidence and it is all a front. I hate it because the amount of opportunities to meet a nice girl I have missed and while my friends are all with girls, I feel alone. I think I really need to work on this and start learning how to make that vital move or I am going to always be alone.

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