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Definitely cut contact?

  • 27-12-2009 02:46PM
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    LegacyUser
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    Unreg for this. Not sure whether to put this in RI or PI so move if neccesary. I'll be short as possible with it.

    I'm a guy who has known this girl for about 6 years. We started of as friends and i developed feelings for her beyond that. Probably left it too late as by the time i mentioned it to her obviously she only had friend eyes for me. After a small period of slight awkwardness we were back to normal again as friends although i still held the feelings. Gradually over time they went away.

    However over the last two months they have resurfaced. I don't know why but once again they are here. I'm 100% certain she will only wish to remains friends which is fair enough. So basically right now i'm pretending to be her friend wishing for more than that which i know i cannot have.

    The logical action would be to cut off contact with her with the goal of losing the feelings through 'out of sight out of mind' and then sometime in the coming year presumably perhaps return to being friends.

    I guess the question i'm asking is should i indeed go through this course of action? It just seems to be more of a thing you do with ex's really. We've never been anything other than friends. Also if i do indeed push through with it should i let her know through a short mail of some kind what i'm doing and why i'm doing it or just try and let us drift apart? I'd imagine the former would be the better thing to do so as not to cause her confusion but i just thought i'd check in on other people's thoughts first. Thanks.


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