Relationship Counselling

LegacyUser

hi

my mams partner who has been living with us for nearly a decade and is for all intensive purposes my dad moved out of the house 2 weeks ago

it is not the first time my parents have had a big row during the course of their relationship but this time feels very different, he has not been back to the house as far as im aware even to pick up presents for his family. i feel he has given up on the relationship

as far as blame goes i think they are equally to blame however it is more clear what i would blame my mother for - never admitting shes wrong / backing down or letting someone else voice their opinion (i.e. its the wrong opinion)

my mother is stubborn and will not go back to dad (i refer to him as dad) to make contact or anything because she always believes shes right and perhaps doesn't want to loose the power struggle by going to him first?

what im looking for here is general advice of what to do in this situation, i wanted to give them info and ask would they book a relationship counselor (recommendations would be excellent im looking for the best of the best)

i am an adult and my mother is starting to get on. i am worried that she needs this relationship (both of them do) and likelyhood of her finding another partner is slim at this stage of the game (i dont think she has the will to look)

thanks very much

Kevster

Is there any reason why your mother is so stubborn?; a nd is it just in relation to men that she is stubborn? If it was just in relation to men, then it might be a remnant of previous relationships she had in which she was mistreated. Other than that, they both certainly need to sit down and talk things over, and to devise a plan for the future. Until they can do that, I suggest that you and her sit down to have a talk too. You are clearly worried about her future, and you need to relay this to her in a calm and honest way. She will obviously then give her own side of the story, and you can take it from there.

Kevin

meganj

hey op,

Sounds like your really concerned about your mum. Relationship Counselling is an important decision for both of them to make if you want to reccomend someone I'd try Marriage, Relationship and Counseling Services (http://www.mrcs.ie/).

But, they're adults and have to come to their own decisions, you may (unfortunately) have to accept that they may not want to get back together or even try.

I do hope that it goes well for you.