My girlfriend seriously assaulted by her brother? What do i do next?

pulpfictionost

So yesterday my girlfriend went home to see her family for christmas, and her disgusting fat older brother with no job ended up attacking her.

Her arm was dislocated and she couldnt move her neck. She rang me hysterical when she was lying on the floor afterward, she asked me what to do? I said hang on a sec.. I rang the garda told them what was going on and they came to the house. And took her to safety.

She is still in hostpital now, in a neck brace and they are still doing scans on her neck and arm to see what the best approach to pop her arm back in.

So when she gets out of hospital she is going to go make a statement in the garda station.

What happens next??? Will he be arrested? She wants him prosecuted to the full extent of the law.

Dancor

My recomendation would get me banned from the forum :-/

Cheap Thrills!

God, thats awful OP.

Just support her. Are the rest of the family supporting her?
How is this violent person allowed in the house. He is dangerous.

Make sure no-one in the family talks her out of prosecuting him. Sometimes family members want to enable disfunctional people like him.

With pressing charges, there are no guarantees as to how it will go. There has to be enough evidence for the DPP to proceed. Each case is different.

Also the guards/ DPP will see this as a Domestic and their top frustration dealing with domestics is the victim changing their mind about pressing charges after the Guards investing time and resources in the case.

So they are wary understandably. I hope your girl is ok and my heart goes out to you.

All the best.

QOTSA90

Dancor wrote: »

My recomendation would get me banned from the forum :-/

snap, as a guy.. Im sure you know what the advice most of us would offer is going to be. Having the Gards involved is the correct thing to do, support your girl, make sure she doesnt change her mind and if her scumbag of a brother ever comes near her again.. just try to keep yourself within the letter of the law.

edit to add: That is actually a sickening story and honestly, its tainted my mood. Honestly I dont know if I would be able to sit down and take it as you have done.

OP you are a truly a better man than I.

Good luck to you and your OH, I hope the brother gets whats coming to him.

Anti

Yeah she can get him arrested for GBH, if he has any previous covictions hopefully he'll get locked up. I had a sister, i know we used to get into fights, but jesus none of us would lay a hand on each other. Im not sure, but i think she can take out a restraining order on him. Also, what do her parents think, were they there when it happened? Also what caused her brother to do that?

leggo

It's a positive that she knows she's been wronged here and is willing to hold her brother accountable for his actions. When it comes to loved ones, our judgement can so easily be tainted.

As someone already said, you're there to support her and ensure that nobody twists her mind. Unfortunately, with domestic abuse, it's a lot EASIER for people to diminish what happened and pretend a mountain was made out of a molehill. What happened here was a cowardly act of sheer scum and there is no justification for it. Make sure she remembers this.

She doesn't have to have him locked up (which could see her alienated from the family should they choose to go that route)...she can simply have a restraining order or barring order placed against him to ensure her safety in the future. That will also allow the Gardai to keep the incident on his record, so he'll have the prospect of jail facing him should he do this to anyone else again (if he doesn't already). Hopefully it'll scare him into copping on and give her as much peace of mind as possible.