Christmas suprise ruined

LegacyUser

Anyone else have their suprise ruined?
I was accidently told my a friend what I was getting from my girlfriend, its extremely annoyin! :@ I don't think i've looked forward to xmas like this for more than ten or 15 years, since I was a kid!
The suprise was back and I've been feelin off form for months, I finally had something to look forward to and now its ruined, it doesn't even feel like xmas any more!

Eve_Dublin

Sorry, your post is a bit unclear...you organised a surprise for your girlfriend but you accidentally told a friend and your friend told her, so now the surprise is ruined? Is that it?

wylo

it doesnt feel like christmas anymore because you had a surprise ruined?
Jesus Id hate to see how you'd react if you had a real problem.

Eve_Dublin

wylo wrote: »

it doesnt feel like christmas anymore because you had a surprise ruined?
Jesus Id hate to see how you'd react if you had a real problem.

Sorry, I'd have to agree with this. A bit of perspective is needed here OP. I'm about to call round to a friend whose brother died of a heart attack 2 weeks ago in his early 30s and whose wife had a little boy only last year. His Christmas and all the Christmases to follow are well and truly ruined for my friend and his family.

wasper

wylo wrote: »

it doesnt feel like christmas anymore because you had a surprise ruined?
Jesus Id hate to see how you'd react if you had a real problem.

Ditto

star-pants

I think the OP means that his gf had a surprise for him for Christmas, but a friend has told him what it is.
That he's been feeling very down the past few months but was excited about Christmas, which made him feel better and now the surprise meant for him is spoiled, so took the air out of his balloon.
Also everything in perspective to each person, to one person it might be a big thing, to someone else it might be nothing, but the fact is - it matters to the OP.

TBH I'd be annoyed if someone told me what my friend/bf had gotten me for Christmas, I love surprises and don't like to be told what it is til I'm handed it. So OP I understand that you're a bit 'awh crap' about it, but unfortunately nothing can be done now. I'd let the friend know that you'd rather not be told about other peoples surprises in future. If it was very much an accident then it's not their fault.

Eve_Dublin

star-pants wrote: »

I think the OP means that his gf had a surprise for him for Christmas, but a friend has told him what it is.
That he's been feeling very down the past few months but was excited about Christmas, which made him feel better and now the surprise meant for him is spoiled, so took the air out of his balloon.
Also everything in perspective to each person, to one person it might be a big thing, to someone else it might be nothing, but the fact is - it matters to the OP.

TBH I'd be annoyed if someone told me what my friend/bf had gotten me for Christmas, I love surprises and don't like to be told what it is til I'm handed it. So OP I understand that you're a bit 'awh crap' about it, but unfortunately nothing can be done now. I'd let the friend know that you'd rather not be told about other peoples surprises in future. If it was very much an accident then it's not their fault.

Christmas is a particularly difficult time for a lot of people and my recommendation to the OP is to get some perspective...that's the only solution I can think of on this issue. I know it's relative but really, if things like this get to you, then you're in for a tough ride. Christmas excitement IS for kids. I like Christmas but I haven't had that type of real excitement since I stopped believing in Santa when I was 11 and I get next to nothing by way of pressies.

It just seems so trivial and ridiculous compared to other issues in here..like a spoilt child not getting their way...I have no sympathy....sometimes we all act this way but have to snap yourself out of it and get perspective...sometimes that's the only solution.

Sorry, very low on sympathy for trivialities today....see:story about my friend.

star-pants

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

It just seems so trivial and ridiculous compared to other issues in here..like a spoilt child not getting their way...I have no sympathy....sometimes we all act this way but have to snap yourself out of it and get perspective...sometimes that's the only solution.

Sorry, very low on sympathy for trivialities today....see:story about my friend.

Don't think I don't agree with you, I do - but I guess we all like to vent about something that has annoyed us. (And it is very sad about your friend - you have my sympathies)
Christmas is a hard time for a lot of people, but for some people it might be the only good thing in their year. So it might not be just the 'oh someone ruined my surprise' but more, 'I've been feeling low and was looking forward to something but that's not going to happen and I didn't want to feel low.'
It is a valid point to put perspective on it regarding how much worse their life could be but at the same time, currently in their life, this is something that's upset them, trivial as it may be.

Eve_Dublin

star-pants wrote: »

Don't think I don't agree with you, I do - but I guess we all like to vent about something that has annoyed us. (And it is very sad about your friend - you have my sympathies)
Christmas is a hard time for a lot of people, but for some people it might be the only good thing in their year. So it might not be just the 'oh someone ruined my surprise' but more, 'I've been feeling low and was looking forward to something but that's not going to happen and I didn't want to feel low.'
It is a valid point to put perspective on it regarding how much worse their life could be but at the same time, currently in their life, this is something that's upset them, trivial as it may be.

Fair enough. I getcha. Perhaps I don't know the full story. In that case OP, heres to a better a Chrimbo next year! The great thing about Christmas is that it comes around again and again and again and again...

Eve_Dublin

Sorry OP and just to add, I didn't read your original post properly and didn't realise you were feeling down the past few months. It does suck when something you're looking forward to is ruined but Christmas is still fun regardless of pressies or surprises. The idea that your girlfriend put so much effort into surprising you is wonderful in itself, even if it was spoiled. You have a lady that loves and cares about you. That's better than anything you can buy in a shop I reckon.

If it's any consolation, I will probably get a E10 Golden Discs voucher tomorrow from my Auntie Mary...and that will probably be the sum of my pressies this year! Haha

BaZmO*

Unless the present is a particularly bad present I think you need to take the advice of the previous posters and get some perspective. At least you have someone to get you something nice for Christmas, a lot of people that have that luxury.

Anti

Hey OP i know how you feel. But dont worry, its only a supprise and im betting a good one Be thankful you have someone to share christmas with, thats the main thing.

rizzee

O.P what age are you? I know how you feel too. At least your getting something! Don't worry about it, keep a level head and act suprised when you open it (if your gf is there!) Happy Christmas.

Taltos

OP

since you have been feeling off form for months and the effect of learning your gift has really impacted you more than most folk here seem to understand I suggest (strongly) that you make an appt with your GP and discuss how you have been feeling.

I am not an expert but this apparent over-reaction might be an indicator of something deeper going on - esp coupled with your how you've been feeling.

Go on - go talk to your GP and see what is really going on here.