why are males cold and unfeeling

ladylouise

every guy i every liked was cold and unfeeling,called me names,and boasting about all there ex-girlfriends to me and make crude comments ,shallow and vain
and treated me like dirt .i am nice to them ,but i am very heavy girl with fat face
but still no reason to mistreated me:mad:

Nevyn

Then pick better guys and go back over all the threads you have started on this previously and actually take on board the advice given and make changes in your life.

miec

Hi Op

Sadly and you may not like to hear this but it comes down to your expectations, the men you have met so far have been cold and cruel and they have had no right to do that but you have said this has always been your experience so I would ask you what are your expectations of a relationship? How are you treated by friends, family members, co-workers etc? Do you expect to be treated badly and then nod your head saying see there it is again because if so, it will continue to happen. How do you handle these men when they are cruel? Do you put up with it, challenge it or somewhere in the middle? You are right the fact that you are heavy with a round face means no one has the right to treat you badly, but how do you treat yourself, what is your image of yourself? Do you think you are pretty? A nice person? Deserving of love and respect? I have put a lot of questions to you because I think you need to take time out from men and look at the real reasons behind all of the above and maybe that will help. What I have learned is that I cannot change others but I can change how I deal with or respond to a situation.

kenbrady

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055758442

tbh wrote:

Louise -

I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. However, you've started multiple threads on this issue and every time you do, we have to tell you we can't help you.

We don't know you, and we don't know this guy. We don't know anything about the situation. I really don't know how to make this any clearer.

I'm very keen for you to be able to use boards as a resource, but I won't allow you to start any more threads on specific topics like this in the science category.

If you start another thread on this topic, I'm going to assume you're unable to understand the problem. My only solution in this case would be to prevent you from starting any threads by banning you from the category.

This is my final word on the matter, and I will not be responding to any messages on the subject.
thanks,
tbh.