Problem with a stalker

troubleshooter

Met a woman in a pub last summer via a friend, agreed to give her a lift home, it was raining she was going to get the bus and only lived about 4 miles past me. On the drive back I started to feel a bit amorous, got to hers, I said, well arnt you going to invite me in for a cup of tea then, she did. Anyhow managed to seduce her, which felt so good. Im 40 was 26.

After Realised she wasnt really my type,(often have this problem, miss my late wife so much, shes the only one in my head/only one I wanna be with, but cant be) but agreed to go for a drink later in the week, we met had a drink, I made my excuss after one and left, and sent her a "sorry your not my type delete my number, cheers" text. Since then got about 50 texts a week, thirty calls, occasionally talked to her. Thankfcuk she does not have my address, know shes tried to find where I work. In recent times shes leaving messages unless we meet she will kill herself, and sounds distraught and serious,sometimes really calm, other times crying etc, what should I do ?

troubleshooter

Great text lastnight, " Ive made you a christmas cake and got a card for you, please can I have your address to send it to you"...Cant wait :rolleyes:

kenbrady

Contact your mobile operator, get them to block her number.

Then read through your past posts and take the advise people gave you, to get through your alleged recurring woman problems.

troubleshooter

kenbrady wrote: »

Contact your mobile operator, get them to block her number.

Then read through your past posts and take the advise people gave you, to get through your alleged recurring woman problems.

No can do my friend, she has texted me saying I can see her any night, thing is I cant rule that out in an emergency, ie being on my jack and feeling frisky (not a good place 2b), any port in a storm and all that, just dont like the fact shes upset.

Any chance of help with my knitting pattern Ken, christ you make a great agony aunt.

Take peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.Its not a choice its a physical and unconsious drive, Does not always feel good/hard to live with at times, as that Rolling stones song goes, "I cant get no satisfaction," but I would rather hang then ever be a nice slippers and coco guy like your good self.

cafecolour

Send her a message saying you're not ready for a relationship, you are still not over your late wife. You're sorry that you led her on, and it would be best if you stopped talking to each other since she sounds like's gotten more attached than is feasible.

Then block her number and delete it from your phone for your own good. Knock out a quick **** rather than tap a crazy bird again. Otherwise, you know she's a bunny boiler, so start budgeting your child support payments now for when she pokes a hole in the condom to try and keep you.

Giblet

troubleshooter wrote: »

No can do my friend, she has texted me saying I can see her any night, thing is I cant rule that out in an emergency, ie being on my jack and feeling frisky (not a good place 2b), any port in a storm and all that, just dont like the fact shes upset.

Any chance of help with my knitting pattern Ken, christ you make a great agony aunt.

Take peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.Its not a choice its a physical and unconsious drive, Does not always feel good/hard to live with at times, as that Rolling stones song goes, "I cant get no satisfaction," but I would rather hang then ever be a nice slippers and coco guy like your good self.

So you don't want help is what you are saying? It's a problem because you are entertaining it, so really, it's your fault. Good luck! You'll need it.

LegacyUser

You need to explain to her that you are not interested and don't want to speak to her again. Try and do it as gently as possible but be straight with her. Then just have nothing more to do with her, don't answer texts and don't answer phone calls. She'll give up eventually.

If, however, you are going to go around to her house and sleep with her when you feel like it, knowing full well that she is obsessed with you, then you deserve everything you get. That's messing with someone that is clearly a bit unbalanced. I can't help but think this isn't that mush of a problem for you if you're prepared to do that.

kenbrady

troubleshooter wrote: »

No can do my friend, she has texted me saying I can see her any night, thing is I cant rule that out in an emergency, ie being on my jack and feeling frisky (not a good place 2b), any port in a storm and all that, just dont like the fact shes upset.

Any chance of help with my knitting pattern Ken, christ you make a great agony aunt.

Take peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.Its not a choice its a physical and unconsious drive, Does not always feel good/hard to live with at times, as that Rolling stones song goes, "I cant get no satisfaction," but I would rather hang then ever be a nice slippers and coco guy like your good self.

I seriously hope you can find happiness and contentment someday, so you will be able to enjoy the fulfilment and satisfaction of relaxing with slippers and coco.
But it's clear from all your cries for help and attention on here, that you have a terrible emptiness inside you. You need to seek professional help to rid you of your lonely despair. No more replies from me, I can't help you, I hope someone, someday can.

John Mason

troubleshooter wrote: »

............... what should I do ?

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kenbrady wrote: »

Contact your mobile operator, get them to block her number.

troubleshooter wrote: »

No can do my friend, she has texted me saying I can see her any night, thing is I cant rule that out in an emergency, ie being on my jack and feeling frisky (not a good place 2b), any port in a storm.

charming

troubleshooter wrote: »

peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.

okay then you are not looking for advice then, so what are you doing bragging? cos it just makes you look a bit pathetic tbh

the best advice i can give you is to seek professional help, perhaps a sex addiction counselor

Kiera

So you want to get rid of her but yet keep her for a booty call? I think you're the one that needs help!

Wibbs

troubleshooter wrote: »

Any chance of help with my knitting pattern Ken, christ you make a great agony aunt.

Take peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.Its not a choice its a physical and unconsious drive, Does not always feel good/hard to live with at times, as that Rolling stones song goes, "I cant get no satisfaction," but I would rather hang then ever be a nice slippers and coco guy like your good self.

troubleshooter If you choose to take some advise and not others then of course that is your right and often prudent, but do not insult others on this forum who offer it. It's called basic manners. Simply dont respond in such a tone or this thread will be locked.

Walls

Your behaviour to this woman is reprehensible, and your attitude equally distasteful. Asking for advice on how to make her stop stalking you but to keep her sweet so that you can continue to delude her is unlikely to be met with positive responses.

Sephiroth_dude

Change your number,problem solved.

Stheno

OP - contact your mobile operator and block her number.

Dont answer her calls or texts.

Maybe she is lonely and if they are a nuisance and you are vulnerable emotionally-you are entitled to go your merry way.

By engaging you are feeding it.

It may get worse even when you get the block done as you will hamper the phone company and potentially hamper them doing their job and stopping the harrassment.

davyjose

troubleshooter wrote: »

No can do my friend, she has texted me saying I can see her any night, thing is I cant rule that out in an emergency, ie being on my jack and feeling frisky (not a good place 2b), any port in a storm and all that, just dont like the fact shes upset.

Any chance of help with my knitting pattern Ken, christ you make a great agony aunt.

Take peoples advise,well I cant help it if Ive got a high sex drive and imagination to boot, its just the cross I have to bear.Its not a choice its a physical and unconsious drive, Does not always feel good/hard to live with at times, as that Rolling stones song goes, "I cant get no satisfaction," but I would rather hang then ever be a nice slippers and coco guy like your good self.

So basically you're toying with someone who is obviously experiencing mental anguish. Wow, you're soooo awesome.
As for kenbrady, you know nothing about what kind of person he is. We, however, know exactly what you are.

Wagon

Stop shagging her you muppet! Regardless of how bloody blue your balls get the only way you're going to get rid of her is to stop sleeping with her. She doesn't exactly sound stable and you're giving her mixed messages by going to her when it suits you. Simple as that.

Great text lastnight, " Ive made you a christmas cake and got a card for you, please can I have your address to send it to you"...Cant wait

That's kind of depressing.

Wurly

Wagon wrote: »

Stop shagging her you muppet! Regardless of how bloody blue your balls get the only way you're going to get rid of her is to stop sleeping with her. She doesn't exactly sound stable and you're giving her mixed messages by going to her when it suits you. Simple as that.

Yeah +1. To be honest OP, I think you love all of this drama. Even more so by creating this thread almost boasting about it.

With all due respect, grow up.

Zaph

OK, this thread is starting to get a bit too personal for my liking so I'm locking it before I end up having to ban somebody.