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pregnant girlfriend

  • 20-12-2009 8:19am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi,

    my girlfriend is pregnant, which we're delighted about... :)

    now i havent been down this road before, so im confused as to how i can help, what i should be doing, and how best to support her..

    we havent told anybody yet but have friends who went through the same, but for now im lookin for some resources on the web to give me this type of advice and prepare me properly, and maybe the best books i can buy, any suggestions?

    thanks!


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  • #2
    RealistSpy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,686 ✭✭✭RealistSpy


    The Parenting forum would be the best place to go mate. Congrate :) welcome to fatherhood.


  • #3
    Elessar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,267 ✭✭✭Elessar


    Since you're not married, remember that unmarried fathers have little to no rights in this country - so make sure when the child is born that both you get your name on the birthcert AND you get your girlfriend to sign a guardianship form stating you as the other legal guardian of the child.

    I've seen too many fathers get into a world of hurt by NOT doing this.

    Congrats anyway.


  • #4
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    There is a pregnancy forum off the parenting forum were you can find a lot of info and posters are generally good at being helpful if they can and there is a fathers thread in there, the forum also supports unregisters posting or you could create an account for posting there rather then your regular account if you wished.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1091

    Congratulations.


  • #5
    martdalto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 211 ✭✭martdalto


    Congratulations! I agree with the others, pop over to the pregnancy forum - you'll get great advice!

    At the moment there's not a huge amount you can DO, practically. The one thing that will almost definitely happen in the early days is she will be over come with sudden exhaustion.. really, really tired!

    On my first pregnancy I could fall asleep on the couch mid conversation!! So maybe if she's feeling really wrecked, just let her be. Don't expect great conversation - or for her to want to go out etc!

    A good book to buy is "What to expect when expecting", it lays everything out month by month, and tells you all the possible things that can be happening.. so if she has a particular "side effect" of pregnancy (and there are many!) it's reassuring to know that it's normal enough for the stage you are at.

    One again, congratulations - it's a very exciting, if daunting, time!


  • #6
    JangoFett
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 854 ✭✭✭JangoFett


    Man, it's refreshing to hear someone happy about their GF being pregnant, congratulations!!
    I don't have any kids but I imagine there's books to read, what to expect etc. I'd be all about getting her the food in the mad cravings phase and going to pre natal classes and making cots/beds myself


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    cheers thanks, that parenting forum is great :):) never would have wanted to go in there before!! :P

    Cheers for all the congrats!! :D

    Elessar, thanks for the advice, i'll be following that through...

    martdalto, could have done with that advice about her being tired this evening, i wrecked her head a bit when she just wanted to sleep... should have read the replies earlier and just left her alone :)

    obviously i'm not just delighted, i'm scared as hell :), but really looking forward to it all as well..


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