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Is it wrong to have dates with different people in the same period of time

  • 20-12-2009 12:19AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Is it wrong to have dates with different people in the same period of time? Maybe it's Christmas time.

    I met A two months ago, but then he stopped contact me for a while. I quite like A but since he stopped contact me, I thought he might not be interested in me, and I don't want to push things (as I did before and never ended up good, so now, I'd not chase guys. If they like me enough, they would do things). But I received his txt suddenly tonight wishing me Merry Christmas. I called him back and chit chatted and we arranged to meet tomorrow night.

    During the time that he stopped contact me, I met B. He is an interesting guy, but I know I am not physically attracted to him. I do want a friendship from him. But since he did not say anything about interested in me, I don't know maybe he just want a friendship with me only as well. He called to meet tomorrow afternoon. And I agreed.

    Do I need to be honest in this case, to tell them I am meeting some other people as well? To be honest, are the meeting tomorrow called dates? I myself am not clear as well.

    Both of them are fairly new persons to me that we don't know each other long.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No i dont think you need to tell either of them. Your not mutually exclusive with either of them. However if your not interested in guy B at all, maybe some conversation should be had, guys are terrible with emotional things at times, maybe he does have feelings for you but is scared to tell you.

    Still nice to have two dates in one day!

    Good luck


  • #3
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    I tend to agree
    1st seems like a date
    2nd seems like a coffee with a mate

    Just don't lead them on - esp the 2nd as just cause you see him as a mate and are not physically interested does not mean that a small part of him genuinely likes you.

    So far though do not see any strings etc making either relationship exclusive.


  • #4
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    You don't really have to tell them about each other but I agree with the previous poster, don't lead the 2nd guy on. Be honest about this now, don't sort of string him along if he's interested in you then lump him in the friends zone. It's better that he knows where he stands and if he wants a friendship with you, fair enough. Although there's a chance he may not and if so, you need to respect that and not guilt him into being friends with you.


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