new relationship

LegacyUser

seeing a guy the past 3 months and I like him but not mad about him.
I feel I should end it but on the other hand I feel I should give it more of a go.
I am deceiving him if I carry on even though my heart is not fully in it?

robby^5

Well we dont know if you're deceiving him or not, are you letting him think that there is a long-term future to the relationship? Are you just in this relationship for the sake of being in a relationship?

You dont need to think about sparing his feelings, you're better off ending it sooner rather than later before he gets too attached.

Miss Fluff

If you are feeling like this after three months, when feelings for each other should be growing and the honeymoon phase should be at it's peak, then it doesn't bode well. I'd be inclined to break up with him rather than having him get more attached to you when you know it's not going to work.

TitoPuente

Just end it as soon as possible rather than causing him torture and torment down the road, I'd say.

LegacyUser

will wait till after xmas - dont wanna be a bitch and ruin the festive season for him.

he is nice - but has a v fixed way of thinking which is annoying me.

TitoPuente

Um... I'd be inclined to get over your ego and just end it now. It's only been 3 months; I'm sure he can handle it. You're leading him on by letting it last any longer, knowing that it's ultimately doomed, and that's beyond reprehensible.

LegacyUser

well he broke with me anyway..

still glad i did not end it with him - I do reallllly like him - the only thing that was putting me off was the fact he is stubborn - and in the end this is the reason he is breaking up with me. I'm too depressed to go into it. But there is an issue in his head and he cannot get past it. I did not think it was as bad as this. Such a pity - he is sooo so cool in every other way. And really hot and caring etc.

Anyway Happy new year.. NOT for me !!!!

Good luck to all in love..

Eve_Dublin

You seem more into him now that he dumped you...compare your first post with your last and make sure it's not a case of rose-tinted glasses...it's as if you're talking about 2 different men!

Sorry it didn't work out for you anyway but if there's trouble this early on, then it doesn't bode well for the future....Good luck...

TitoPuente

OP - you sound like you don't really know how you feel or what you want at all! As Eve_Dublin said, your two posts are completely contradictory. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I hope you haven't just gone and thrown away something that could have been really good

LegacyUser

ok in my initial thread i said my heart was not in it. thats cos we had a row ages ago - we sorted it - or so i thought but he has been holding back and so this was affecting me as you can imagine. He was being stubborn - which is the problem - and I said this in my initial thread too. I should have explained fully then I guess.

But I had hoped he would be able to move on and chill out and let things go back to the way they were - but that has not happened.
He cannot get over what happened even though it was only small - and so he has ended it. But I was willing to give things a go - its out of my hands now. Will never understand men.