Strange non-cheating problem imminent

LegacyUser

Hmm..This is a strange one. My girlfriend of a year and a half just rang me (she's on a night out, I'm at home hungover) to say that a friend of ours just told her that I had kissed the friend. I havn't, I've never cheated on her, and I'm completely baffled by this. I lost my phone on the night out last night, so I can't text or anything (she facebooked me telling me to ring her urgently from the house-phone, she didn't actually ring me) to find out what's going on. I told her I'd no idea what she was talking about, and she said she believed me, but I just got an angry enough facebook message saying she's coming home now...early...What can I say that won't sound like usual excuses about cheating? I actually didn't, and have no idea where this has come from, but I don't know whether she'll believe that, as if I look at it from her point of view, that's what I would say if I had cheated...

dearg lady

jeez, that's a really lousy thing the friend did. You've presumably spoken to your girlf already but I'll throw in my two cents anyway.
Your girlf is probably utterly confused, she wants to trust you but thinks her friend would have no reason to lie. I would suggest stay calm and don't get annoyed, talk about it rationally. Be very firm that this did not happen. I hope you got t sorted already anyway. If it was me, I would really want to have it out with the fiend too, ask her what the hell she's playing at, but it probably wouldn't be very constructive.

You probably do need to figure out why she has it in for you though, was there every anything between you an the friend, any interest on either side?

martdalto

I would tell her that you have done nothing wrong and that you want to go with her to the friends house to ask her what exactly she's playing at.

You can then go armed with your questions..

When did it happen?
How exaclty did it happen?
How long did it last?
Who else was present?
What was her reaction, when he friends boyfriend kissed her?
etc..

Your gf will know whether she is being "convincing" or not.

RealistSpy

If didn't cheat you have nothing to worry about just tell her!

Liam Byrne

Sounds like there's a trust problem.....why would she believe your mutual friend and not you ?

ToniTuddle

Very important: Don't forget she may have a good few drinks in her(seeing as she has been out with friends) and be over-emotional as a result so don't take her reactions to heart!

If you haven't cheated then just be honest and let her know how much you do care for her.
Her friend either wants you/wants to cause trouble for the sake of it/wants to cause trouble simply to hurt your girlfriend....god knows why people do these things.

When she is sober(that's if she had drinks) I think you both should have an honest discussion about your relationship. Not defensive or attacking just plain old honesty.
Such as if you completely trust her then ask her to open up about why she may not trust you?

Most people do have insecurities it's normal. Those insecurities can come to the surface when they think they may be about to loose their loved one.