How do you kiss??

LegacyUser

This is going to sound stupid but I really need some help. I'm a 24 year old guy going on a date tomorrow and the opportunity may arise to kiss the girl. I've never kissed before so I am bricking it. I don't want to turn her off. Assuming I can get past the fear of making the move, what's the best way to do it?

Just kiss the lips a few times then move onto the cheek/neck maybe? Or are you supposed to "french kiss" with the whole sticking your tongues into each others mouths?! What are you supposed to do with your tongue then anyway?!!

Help!

Acoshla

If this is your first date with this girl do not start kissing her neck and cheeks if the opportunity to kiss her arises, just keep it simple and stick to her mouth! Don't stick your tongue in her mouth, just start off with a small slow kiss on the lips, and let it move *slowly* from there. If you kiss her lips, watch and see how she reacts and you'll quickly figure out what to do next, even follow her lead, just keep it slow and simple and you'll be grand.

spurious

Please do not do what some people do and think the best way to kiss is to force your entire tongue into her mouth. It's most unpleasant to be on the other end of.

Less thinking about it in general and more going with the flow is the way really.

humanji

It may not seem like the best advice in the world, but it'll come naturally if you relax and go with the flow. I remember being terrified at the thought of my first kiss, but when the time came the two of us were relaxed and comfortable with each others company. The kiss pretty much came out of nowhere but it really did come as second nature when it did.

So just relax and you'll be fine. Remember that every girl kisses differently, so there's no set technique that's perfect. Just go for the lips and be gentle and you'll be fine.

Overheal

Its fairly based in instinct so you have nothing to worry about. Just practice a little restraint before choking her on your tongue or biting her neck off or something.

cafecolour

Stay on the lips. You just sort of open and close your mouth like you're eating an ice cream cone. Don't push too hard with your mouth. Make sure you've shaved (stubble can be painful). Don't shove your tongue in - gently move it around inside the lips. Follow her lead.

Here, via the wonders of google:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1HmFU8VekE

It's not perfect, but it's actually not that bad for a youtube 'how to kiss' vid

LegacyUser

+1 on the tongue, most people don't like that (especially on a first date), I'm with my OH a while and there's rarely (nor has there ever been) much tongue action. It's not necessary so don't worry about it.

Go Slow, not too much pressrue, like someone said like your eating an ice cream. Don't open your mouth too wide like you're trying to engulf her face or you'll give her a slopppy one!

If you're kissing her for a while ( a minute or so) don't let it get boring, maybe raise your hand and run your fingers off the back of her hair / nape of her neck and gently on her jaw. That feels nice! Work from top lip to bottom and you might even get as far as gently sucking a lip, but seriously don't worry about it it's as easy as it looks.

Good luck, hope your date goes well

Wuggectumondo

If there's a genuine attraction, I don't think there should be a problem. It will all happen naturally.

LegacyUser

I've a similar situation coming up, I'm 25, I have kissed before, only a few occassions, but has always been drunken ones.

So later I am going on a first date with a girl who I have only briefly chatted to online, what I'm really wondering is should I kiss her when I first see her. Would a peck on cheek be too much considering we have never met and only small bit of chat. Should I just go for a hug or a handshake. I don't know.

cruizer101

Hey I'm in a similar situation, I'm 25, have kissed a very few times, and has always been drunken kisses.

Have a first date tonight with a girl who I have only briefly chatted to online. What would be the advice on greeting her, doubt I'll have the nerve but would a kiss on cheek be too much considering haven't met before, should I just go fo a hug or handshake. Ahhh I've no idea.

LeixlipRed

Play it by ear. Judge her body language as she approaches and see what you think is best. Sometimes you don't need a physical greeting if there's a laugh or a joke at the start but if it looks like she wants to then maybe a brief hug. A kiss on the cheek wouldn't be something I'd recommend tbh and a handshake is a bit formal and normally something to do when introduced by another person. Good luck!

Overheal

Play it by ear.

But, dont go for the ears. thats a rookie mistake.

hug or handshake usually. i wouldnt go for the cheeks that quickly.

anniehoo

A good kiss for me is slow..and soft with only a little tongue action. French kissing ..or full on tongue action isnt always pleasant if the other persons is really long (ive a short tongue) so play it safe and dont think about it. Everyone has their own kissing style and it will come naturally.

cafecolour wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1HmFU8VekE

2:13 i was in knots laughin

viggi-tea

Similarquestion, Definitely dont kiss the girl just when you meet her first. If she only knows you from chatting online she might find it a bit strange or intimidating. Just smile and maybe at most a hug I would suggest.

And OP, maybe keep it really simple when you kiss. Stay away from tongue unless she starts to use some! And if so keep it soft. I think the best way to learn to kiss is through practice, just mimic how she kisses you. I know I try to show a guy how I like to be kissed by how I kiss them. I wouldnt recommend moving on to cheek or neck cos it'll interupt the flow and kisses on the neck can be very intimate and maybe not for the first date.

I wish both you guys the absoloute best of luck, be sure to post and tell us how it goes!