I need a excuse to text him

Cant sleep

Ok this is going to sound childish but here it goes. Know a guy a few months, we have been flirting, a lot of sexual tension ect. He chased me for along time but I wasn’t ready/sure I wanted anything to happen. We were getting along better as the weeks went on. But the thing is we are both in our 20’s neither of us would be “shy” as such but whenever we disused our relationship we did so through text (he initiated this always) even if we are in the same room. Which I thought was slightly childish. Last weekend he text me asking if he could kiss me, I was taken back that he didn’t just do it as he knows how I feel about him, in the end he got drunk/sick and left in a really bad mood because I wouldn’t kiss him after this. The next day he text and apologised. A few nights later he text me in the middle of the night. The day before I was told something about him that wasn’t very nice and I asked him about it (in a non judgemental way) he denied it and we said goodnight. And I haven’t heard anything since(7 days ago). I do like him and I did think this was going somewhere but it is VERY unlike him not to text as we would text each other all day everyday. I’m thinking he must be not interested anymore after what I asked him or maybe because I haven’t been mad him from the start and have had no physical contact him as such.

I really want to text him and see what’s going on but I have no idea what to say or what to bring up or what not to.

Please help!

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Gummy Panda

What did you ask him?

Can't you just text him "How are you?"

My name is URL

I know this isn't very helpful, but he sounds like a tool.. texting you while in the same room..! wtf

He's playing with you.. if you're into that then just ask him what the story is.. what other excuse do you need?

dreamer_ire

Tell him you are thinking about him..... see what he comes back with.

Cant sleep

My name is URL wrote: »

I know this isn't very helpful, but he sounds like a tool.. texting you while in the same room..! wtf

He's playing with you.. if you're into that then just ask him what the story is.. what other excuse do you need?

I thought this was strange alright... Couldnt believe he didnt have the balls to just kiss me... Like we are not 12 anymore...

Cant sleep

Gummy Panda wrote: »

What did you ask him?

Can't you just text him "How are you?"

I was told by a pretty realiable source that he spiked a girls drink a month ago... he completly denied it. But the fact he has'nt text me since makes me think that maybe he feels that he was "found out" or maybe he's annoyed that i would even ask as he was so addiment that he didnt do it.

dreamer_ire

Cant sleep wrote: »

I was told by a pretty realiable source that he spiked a girls drink a month ago... he completly denied it. But the fact he has'nt text me since makes me think that me he feels that he was "found out" or maybe he's annoyed that i would even ask as he was so addiment that he didnt do it.

In that case it really comes down to how reliable your information is. Tbh if I was sure a friend who told me that was right I wouldn't go next nor near the guy again.

Cant sleep

dreamer_ire wrote: »

In that case it really comes down to how reliable your information is. Tbh if I was sure a friend who told me that was right I wouldn't go next nor near the guy again.

It was a family member who told me, they would'nt tell me who told them. But the fact they felt the need to tell me conserns me a bit. Yet im wondering if if was a misunderstanding as he is so sure it wasnt him. I wasnt told if the drink was spiked by alchol or drugs. Do you think that matters at all? Becasuse you know when your young/drunk/being silly you encourage people to drink more ect? ah i dont know. I am mad about him but wondering if i should text at all as im not sure if i trust him or not. I do care about him, and feel like a bit of a bitch for leading him on for the last few months. I know myself that he would be considered "trouble" but im just crazy about him....

dreamer_ire

My initial reaction was it doesn't matter however everything has to be set in context so I guess it does matter. There is a huge difference between spiking someones drink with drugs with the intention of assaulting them or slipping an extra vodka into a friend's drink to get them pissed (assuming they are not driving etc). Let's face it most people have done the latter.... and while it's still not ok it is different.

You seem to have a feel for this guy. When you asked him about it how did he react? Did you believe him etc? Maybe it's worth floating him a text but keeping it in mind until you are sure either way?

Cant sleep

dreamer_ire wrote: »

My initial reaction was it doesn't matter however everything has to be set in context so I guess it does matter. There is a huge difference between spiking someones drink with drugs with the intention of assaulting them or slipping an extra vodka into a friend's drink to get them pissed (assuming they are not driving etc). Let's face it most people have done the latter.... and while it's still not ok it is different.

You seem to have a feel for this guy. When you asked him about it how did he react? Did you believe him etc? Maybe it's worth floating him a text but keeping it in mind until you are sure either way?

He said he has never spiked a drink in his life. Which i do believe (in a drugs case). I have seen him spiking his friends drink before with vodka, for a laugh. So when he said he has never spiked a drink in his life he must have thought i meant drugs. But honestly im not sure if my source knows if it was drugs/alchol and they dont want to talk about it anymore. Thats fair enough, but in that case i cant really take what they are saying as fact without more information which they are not willing for some reason to provide. I think everyone deserves a chance and he has never done anything like this to me, I wouldnt get into a relationship with him being naive or thinking he could do no wrong. I think i have really upset him by what i have said, do you think i could get things back or track even after a week with no contact? Should i mention this in a text? He never answers his phone so i wont even try calling...

dreamer_ire

Given that you have pretty much decided that you want to pursue things with him you have a choice in what you text him, either "I've been thinking about you" or a long text where you lay everything out for him etc. I'd be inclined to go with the first... long texts are difficult to write and the longer it is the more open to misinterpretion (sp) it is. Down side with a short text is that it may take him longer to reply cos he's gonna be sitting there trying to figure out what you actually mean. But if he is interested in you and he knows you like him he should be able to read it in the way you mean it.

Either way, whatever you decide to do, good luck

Cant sleep

Thanks... pretty sure i will text him... hmmm is it too late is the next question haha

dreamer_ire

For God's sake woman just do it lmao

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Cant sleep wrote: »

Thanks... pretty sure i will text him... hmmm is it too late is the next question haha

No, do it now!

dreamer_ire wrote: »

For God's sake woman just do it lmao

Agreed!

Slippin Jimmy

Very interesting situation. Look regardless what he has or has not done, he likes you. He has been texting you and what not. He is either embarassed or worried of what you might think of him after what was said. Text him and say I have been thinking about you a lot, why haven't you text me. Be out straight about it.

Cant sleep

Thanks alot everyone for the responses! He will be in bed now but I will definietly text him tomorrow!

Wish me luck.

Cheers:)

dreamer_ire

Good luck and let us know how it goes

dublingal80

well... whats the update?

daveyboy_1ie

Best of luck with texting adventures........I think anyways, as its pretty dodgy ground if you should pursue the 'romance'. BTW. How can you ask someone in a text

'Did you spike someones drink?'

without being judegemental. Think about it. Also how would it come across to hi if he did not spike someones drink and had been hurt by the accusation/ question.

or how would you feel if you did spike someones drink and just found out by text that the world seems to know about it.

Cant sleep

daveyboy_1ie wrote: »

Best of luck with texting adventures........I think anyways, as its pretty dodgy ground if you should pursue the 'romance'. BTW. How can you ask someone in a text

'Did you spike someones drink?'

without being judegemental. Think about it. Also how would it come across to hi if he did not spike someones drink and had been hurt by the accusation/ question.

or how would you feel if you did spike someones drink and just found out by text that the world seems to know about it.

Fair point, i told him i was told that he spiked someones drink and that i would be upset if people where telling lies like that about me. Now that i think about it im sure thats why he hasnt text me.

Update: Dont see me getting in contact with him unfortunally, amazing as it seems alot has happened from last night to thismorning and it wouldnt be right/fair to enter a relationship with him at this time.

daisybelle2008

He is bad news. You know and have seen him spike peoples drink with vodka. That is insanely stupid (what if the person got into a car thinking they were under the limit or got alcohol poisioning). Seriously idiotic behaviour for a man in his 20's. That would be enough to put me off.

Sounds not too unlikely that he did do it to a girl also.

He also got pissed off and stormed off 'cause he wouldn't kiss you (he asked you by text ). God he sounds like a grade a moron.

I am just shocked that a grown man thinks it is funny to spike peoples drink with alcohol.

Moomoo1

I am not surprised you haven't heard from him. Eventually guys give up the chase and move on, and he seems to have been after you for ages with no success.

dreamer_ire

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Cant sleep

dreamer_ire wrote: »

Can a mod please remove/close this thread as the OP has said in other thread that this post is a joke.

Thanks

:rolleyes: jaysus if you would bother reading the other thread before posting please.

dreamer_ire

Cant sleep wrote: »

:rolleyes: jaysus if you would bother reading the other thread before posting please.

For the record OP I did read the other thread.... however I misread it.

mollybird

girl i had someone like that. was a mix of two guys ( the guy your desciribing) one messed with my head for ten years and one did for 4 years. christ it is way too draining. i def would give him a miss. sounds like he is all ready messing with your head. you need someone you can trust implicity and someone that does not consume you every thought.