boyfriends immaturity getting me down :(

LegacyUser

hi guys, just wonderng what the general thinking is about this. I'm a 21 year old girl going out with an 18 year old guy. At first it was all grand & there was no real difference between us but now I'm starting to feel wayyyyy more mature than him & I'm thinking it can only get worse. At the moment he's all into going out getting off his face drunk with his mates every chance he gets whereas i'd like him to take me out for dinner etc or go out for drinks where i don't have to carry him home afterwards. it's starting to get embarrassing and I know people are noticing it. I overheard someone saying in his debs photo i look like his teacher and not his girlfriend which is difficult to hear. I do love him but I'm starting to think its guna come to an end sooner or later and i might aswel bite the bulet?? or should i give it another while til he gets all this immaturity out of the way? i think in the long run we could be a good couple but should i wait around? thanks for any help guys.

Taltos

Have you sat him down and talked about how you are feeling and what you overheard?
Without some input on his reactions to this type of thing it is hard to suggest anything other than move on tbh.

petes

You could be waiting a while for him to "outgrow" his immaturity.

So talk to him and if it continues move on.

dubdcugirly

Hi, This happened to me before but me and the ex in question were only a month apart in age (him younger). Unfortunately some boys just mature slower than girls and I'm sure vice versa. I grew up alot quicker than my ex and his immaturity reallyyyy started to grate on me! I would say it is a hard thing to get over without a break.
I would discuss it with him but on one hand he may not want to change - only young once etc etc. Second he may try to change but would you be happy if he was simply "acting" more mature rather than him just naturally becoming more mature by getting things out of his system etc etc...

Good luck with it anyway, don't give up if you still love him but a chat is certainly a must!

humanji

It sounds like he's acting like a normal 18yo Irishman. As said above, it's him you should be telling, not us. I can well imagine he won't want to leave the party life for the quiet life, so you'll most likely have to come to a compromise. Something along the lines of one weekend spent his way and one spent your way.

But in the end, if he feels about your quiet nights as you do about his crazy nights then I can't see that changing anytime soon.

LegacyUser

OK male in my mid-to-late 20's here going out with a girl several years younger. The missus says she likes a few jars in a group consisting of her mates and lads her own age but would never go out with one. Like you said they are immature... I like going out for nice meals and stuff. They like beer bongs, basshunter and snorting dessertspoons of vodka.

I know cause I did all that sh*t myself once upon a time!

OP, you are unlikely to change this chap...i.e. he is unlikely to change just for you as he will probably prefer his lifestyle to one that consists of meals out and family get togethers so you either chat to him and work around it, learn to like it or else dump his ass and get with someone older then you with money.

Jo King

He is not going to reach your present level till he is at least 25. Best to tell him you do not want to go out with a drunk, and if he does not change his ways, then it's the parting of the ways.