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Annoyed with Friend

  • 16-12-2009 1:10am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hey. I have a friend who I've been close with for many years. I am in my 3rd year of college now and share an apartment with him. I get on grand with him and have a good laugh.

    The situation is that he has his own group of friends, and I have my own group of friends in college, but now he seems to be barging in and trying to make friends with all my friends. He always tries to steal the show and be the centre of attention.

    One night he practically invited himself out to my college night out with all my classmates, even though he didnt know anyone. Even tonight he was in a pub hanging out with a good friend of mine from college.

    Am I overreacting or should I say something to him because it really is annoying me.

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    When you say they are your friends, please realise that you don't own them.


  • #3
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,541 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Hey. I have a friend who I've been close with for many years.
    If you are in fact "close" with your friend, you would often communicate with them when you hit bumps in the relationship road?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Why dont you want him to be friends with your friends? Are you worried they will like him more than you? On the other hand have you ever had feelings for this guy and are afraid one of them might steal him away from?

    I completley understand that some people like to keep groups of friends seperate but you live together, isn't is inevitable he's going to get to know some of your friends? Has he been hanging out with his own friends less, if so have you asked him why?

    Also, in the first instance you described yourself as "close" to him and then said "we get on grand". Slightly contradictory. I normally get on better than "grand" with the people I'm close with and want them to be friends with my friends.

    If your really unhappy with the situation then speak to him and explain that you need your own space and friends. That or moving out should solve the problem.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Well to be honest I only get on with him when we're talking one to one. Once he gets into a group of 3 or more people he acts the fool and tries to be the centre of attention. I never go out to a pub with him or anything, I just can't stand the way he acts among other people!

    Sounds mean, I know, but it's just the way I feel.

    I guess I am worried that my friends will like him better than me, plus the fact that he wants to be involved in everything I do.

    I don't pal around with his friends, mostly because they're his friends and also because I don't think I'd get on with them! He has a completely different personality than me.

    I dunno...


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