Not lasting long enough during sex

LegacyUser

Hi all, well title says all. I just dont last long enough during sex and it has been bringing me down lately. I was just wondering could anyone tell me what the normal length of time for intercourse is? I only last about 15 minutes. Is there anyway to improve this? Oh and by the way Im 18 if that helps anything.Thanks for all replys

LegacyUser

i assume you mean 15 minutes of penetrative sex.

if so, there is nothing "wrong" with this, it is not inadequate, and as far as i am concerned is normal.

sex is not just about the in-out, it's about foreplay, touching, connecting with someone. try different positions and different stimulii. going on top in the missionary position with little or no foreplay is a sure way to ejaculate sooner than you'd like to. encourage your partner to go on top, try spoons, scissors, learn to feel your orgasm build and control it. slow down, stop if needs be. being an attentive and varied loved is more interesting than pounding away on top for an hour. use your hands, your tongue, alternate what you're doing, communicate with your partner and enjoy the experience, don't stress about a phantom stopwatch.

and remember, after the first 15 minutes you can always take a break and start again. sex doesn't have to end with an ejaculation.

Libertewhite

embarrased guy wrote: »

Hi all, well title says all. I just dont last long enough during sex and it has been bringing me down lately. I was just wondering could anyone tell me what the normal length of time for intercourse is? I only last about 15 minutes. Is there anyway to improve this? Oh and by the way Im 18 if that helps anything.Thanks for all replys

It varies from man to man. It takes time and a lot of 'use' to build up the stamina! I wouldn't worry about it OP, most guys at 18 can't even go that long!!

This tip is a life-saver: Have a quickie before intercourse. Then when it comes to doing the deed it will take up to twice as long, if not more:cool:

Use Protection!!

Joey the lips

There is a brand of condom on the market from Durex I think its performa. It contains a jell that slightly numbs tyson makeing you last that little bit longer.

That assumes off course that you use them. Dont let it bother you is an easy thing to say but really do try to change your focus a little and it will pass.

LegacyUser

I got with my OH about 6 months ago and due to a past relationship he had a few issues with sex so much so that he convinced himself he could last for more than a few mins of penetrative sex (he could last for ages getting bjs etc but as soon as it went in that was it!) Anyway we started having sex and a few things occured:
1. Our relationship is great so he was calmer
2. I knew about the issue so he wasnt stressed over it
3. We had a lot of foreplay (talk about a fantastic silver lining) so even if he didnt last too long I was still satisfied.
4. We did a bit of research and he started to build up the muscle. E.g. if a man is pleasuring himself he would bring himself to the point where he wanted to come and then stop, repeat it a few times and you gradually get stronger and stronger at stopping yourself!

In all honesty there is no set time to last because everyones different - every girl could be satisfied in a different time span too! Taking the strain out of it all was the best thing we ever did, be patient and your partner should be too cause I'm reaping the rewards now

sarmer

Personally as a women I think 15 minutes of penetrative sex is perfectly fine, as long as you make the effort with foreplay.

Guys seem to have a lot of pressure on them to last ages and really it's not necessary. It's quality rather than quantity!

LegacyUser

some of the best sexual encounters i've had have lasted less than 2 minutes. either meeting up again after months of being apart, or else naughty adventures in inappropriate places.