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1 day/2 day/ 3 day rule

  • 14-12-2009 7:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I met this guy Saturday night, spoke for ages with him, and we had a kiss, spoke some more, and then he dropped me home. Exchanged numbers, and he asked me where I would like to go on a date some time this week.. He text me later that night saying he had a great time, etc, and would "give me a shout"...
    Got on realy well, felt a connection, like I have known him for ages, and haven't had that with a guy in a long time.

    So he didn't text Sunday, or today, and the conversation came up with the girls about "The Rule", and how many days it lasts.
    Personally, I have a 2 day rule, but others say that he should have texted yesterday, and others think he has until tomorrow- a 3 day rule!!
    So some are advising not to text him back if he does text, as he has missed the boat, others are saying I should text...

    SO the question is, what is everyone's rule?? Girls and guys included??


Comments

  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    If you're working on "rules" you're going to be disappointed and it's largely a pointless exercise. Stop playing games or listening to those who suggest you should. Someone will get hurt, mostly you.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Did you respond to his text on the night you met?

    Why are you playing games? Thats sure to start any relationship off on a bad footing. See when / if he texts. Reply when you have time and take it from there.


  • #4
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    Do what YOU want, never mind people who go by "the rules" they're usually the ones who have a string of failed relationships in my experience, this whole "you're desperate if you text before 2-3 days" thing is utter nonsense, and if the guy you met thinks that way you're better off without him tbh, cant stand gameplaying and headwrecking timewasters


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yeah of course I texted back, and I would like to meet him again, so really hoping he texts...

    Believe me, I don't want to play by any Rules, I don' want to start anything off by any rule bool, just see how things go... But when other people suggested it, it got me thinking, about if there is any right or wrong in the world of dating, like is it acceptable for a guy to text 4/5 days later, etc..


  • #6
    Travis Nice Glassware
    Posts: 0 ✭ Travis Nice Glassware


    Rules are silly. If I like someone, I text them. If I text someone, I expect a reply within a day or so, or I take it they're not interested, as I think leaving it that long is bad manners. Anyone I've ever had a relationship with has texted me minutes after I gave my number. Life is too short for playing games.


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  • #7
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    I agree with the others - rules on this kind of thing are nonsense. A billion things could have happened in the mean time that meant the other person didn't text.

    I would also add thou, and I've said this before - different people work to different texting ettiquettes. Some always respond straight away, others at the end of the day, others when they bother to turn on their phone and others whenever they feel like it or don't feel like it. I have one friend who typically responds to texts 4-7 days after receiving them - its kinda funny because by the time the response comes I've forgotten the context. The point is - don't expect the same text-ettiquette from everyone else that you employ yourself.

    Hell I have one or two numbers on my phone for people I don't even like and who don't even like me but we have a common interest or something so are forced to ineract occasionally and I know if i text them now they will text back out of wanting to keep the moral highground - but that doesn't change that we still don't like each other! So you see - rules for this are MEANINGLESS!


  • #8
    Warfi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 633 ✭✭✭Warfi


    TheRule wrote: »
    Yeah of course I texted back, and I would like to meet him again, so really hoping he texts...

    Believe me, I don't want to play by any Rules, I don' want to start anything off by any rule bool, just see how things go... But when other people suggested it, it got me thinking, about if there is any right or wrong in the world of dating, like is it acceptable for a guy to text 4/5 days later, etc..

    You're doing the right thing if you're following your own path.....you want to see how it goes, that's the best way you can deal with the situation in my opinion.

    Every single person is different, and I find that people who apply rules to situations like yours are insecure because they don't like the uncertainty of other people's personalities and try to rein in their insecurity by having a list of rules they can tick off.


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