singleton

LegacyUser

hey, 26 year old female here,i know this is gona sound very trivial but its just something thats really been getting me down lately..need to get it off my chest..
my familys very close, most of my cousins and myself are around the same age, oddly all girls with the exception of 2 guys, over the past 3 or so years they've all paired off and all seem to be in very serious longterm relationships...and im very happy for them but...
me and one of the girls emma, were the eternal singletons, i guess i never felt bad about it cos at least i wasnt the only one, but shes now found someone whos shes very happy with and im so happy for her...but now its just me
everyone...has someone...i mean everyone! all my relations ...brothers and sisters
i just feel like the biggest freak...the girl nobody wanted. ive had flings and what not in the past but i just cant seem to find that special someone, i really don't think he exists anymore. Its just lately my mums being going on and on about how its so great that everyones loved up and happy, i know she doesnt mean to rub it in, but its killing me inside. She keeps asking me if i think ill ever get married or if theres any romance at all in my life. I feel like everyone just pities me. It just feels like its never going to happen..i know i should be happy enjoying being young and single..but im tired now, ive been single for so long..it'd be so nice to have someone .. I just feel like the biggest failure.

fend

Don't Panic! Your time will come! People have this generalisation that people are to pair up in their 20s and have a family by their 30s!! One of the most popular shows in the world doesn't even stick to this rule! [SATC!]
I think your putting yourself under a lot of unnecessary stress.

When it happens, it will happen!

Have you had any serious relationships at all? [By serious I mean over 6-9months]

I wouldn't worry too much. Most relationships happen when your not even looking for them!

G-Money

I kind of get the same thing from time to time when I go home. My best mate is getting married next year and my ma often asks me about him and then says to me "So any romances?". It's at this point I have to cringe and make up some waffly answer and hope she changes the subject as I don't really want to talk about it as it just makes me feel bad.

A bit annoying but what can you do.

And to make matters worse, I've started to think that at my age (32) my parents were married and I'd arrived on the scene, while I'm setting the world record for length of time between even so much as a snog.

You're not the only one in the same boat.

Miss Fluff

I'm 32 and I'm in the same boat and if feeling a bit self-pitying or down you can liken yourself to the bearded lady at a 20s circus because everyone seems to be with the love of their life while I sometimed feel destined to a life of old age smelling of wee and being found eaten by cats. That's only periodically though. I think you just have to think to yourself it will either happen or it won't and if it does happen, it will happen in it's own good time!

So in the meantime try and enjoy yourself as much as possible and use not being tied down to your advantage. Go out lots, expand your social circle, give internut dating a whirl and above all relax and enjoy this time.

John Mason

i am the oldest of all my cousins and brother. they are all married with kids. i met my OH when i was 33 but up till then i was the only singleton in the family.

i wouldnt worry about it, you are only 26, you should be out enjoying yourself rather then tying yourself down.

It is much better to be single and happy then in a relationship and miserable

LegacyUser

irishbird wrote: »

i am the oldest of all my cousins and brother. they are all married with kids. i met my OH when i was 33 but up till then i was the only singleton in the family.

i wouldnt worry about it, you are only 26, you should be out enjoying yourself rather then tying yourself down.

It is much better to be single and happy then in a relationship and miserable

This last sentence is SO true!
I`m now in my mid forties and got hooked up really young and have regretted it deeply, now going through break up.
I`m a guy BTW...:(

donster79

Miss Fluff wrote: »

I'm 32 and I'm in the same boat and if feeling a bit self-pitying or down you can liken yourself to the bearded lady at a 20s circus because everyone seems to be with the love of their life while I sometimed feel destined to a life of old age smelling of wee and being found eaten by cats. That's only periodically though. I think you just have to think to yourself it will either happen or it won't and if it does happen, it will happen in it's own good time!

So in the meantime try and enjoy yourself as much as possible and use not being tied down to your advantage. Go out lots, expand your social circle, give internut dating a whirl and above all relax and enjoy this time.

The last line is so original. It is just the bog standard, generic reply to this question.

Miss Fluff

donster79 wrote: »

The last line is so original. It is just the bog standard, generic reply to this question.

And your helpful and original reply being what exactly........?

donster79

Maybe she should join a club....:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

Wibbs

donster79 maybe you should come up with a useful post. If you can't then dont post. Thanks.

JangoFett

I'm in the same situation, my older brother is engaged, little brother and sister in relationships and all of my friends without exception are in serious relationships and are in love.
I've very very happy for everyone but I'm jealous, I spend most of my nights in my house alone watching tv and browsing the net. It's depressing as hell but I just have to believe that things will perk up.
My friends seem to be under the impression that there's something going on with someone somewhere but I honestly have no idea how they've gotten that idea, I haven't even gotten a hug from a woman in over 2 months I have so little physical contact! They've all been asking seperately if I have any women on the go which means they're all talking about it together, I know it's not a bad thing.
And now I'm facing into spending new year's on my own as they're all paired off and going somewhere with their other halves.
Things have to get better, you can't stop hoping. Hope is the most powerful feeling you can have.

G-Money

I'm actually thinking about not going out for New Years eve. I hate it when it strikes midnight and everyone has someone to kiss except me. I know it seems hard to believe that everyone else is magically paired up, with equal numbers of males and females, but it did happen once when I was away travelling. Completely soul destroying and a great way to bring in the new year

gerrybbadd

I have this yearly argument with myself on new years eve too, and just going out in general tbh. I'm 26, and havn't had a serious relationship since I was 18, and now, although rediculous, feel that the clock is ticking, and i need to do something quick. As grandmaster says, there's nothing worse than beeing out etc, and everybody magically pairs up.

Worse still, when i go out, all my mates are with the OH's (All of them!!!) and i'm the third wheel stuck in the middle.

I hope everything works out for you OP!:o