Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

am I too sensitive?

  • 13-12-2009 9:12pm
    #1
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭


    The reason I ask am I too sensitive is because I always woory about peoples feelings and at times they don't give a f**k about mine. Examples:

    1. If I email or send a text I always reply - sometimes they might not reply to mine. I would feel if I didnt reply to them they might feel I didnt care about them so I always make sure I reply.

    2. I was talking to some guy on a site b4 - I always replied to his mails - then once I mentioned I was meeting some guy and he totally blanked me from then on. Not a word ever again from him. I was harmlessly emailing the guy as friends and was telling him what I was up to and then - nothing ever again.

    I feel like people are only out for themselves and only use you to get what they want. Granted I have met a lovely guy recently and he treats me good :)

    But other times with other people I find they are so mean and dont give a damn if they hurt you or not whereas i worry if people are hurt or ipset by my actions. Do I need to just toughen up?????


Comments

  • #2
    phic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 342 ✭✭phic


    OP sounds to me you're just a nice person who considers other peoples feelings. and it really sucks that some people dont appreciate that and don't treat you nicely back.
    You just have to realise that it's nothing personal and you shouldn't get upset about it. Not everyone is as lovely as you, but I'm sure plenty of people are nice to you cos you're nice to them!


  • #3
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    OP, I was in a similar boat to you.
    Yes , you need to do a small bit of toughening up.
    You must learn to start treating others as they would treat you, not literally all the time, but basically what I mean by that is,if you know one particular person doesnt tend to reply to your texts then dont go out of your way to reply to them. Im not saying dont answer them if they have a direct question, just dont go out of your way for them to make sure they get the reply.

    Im not talking about playing games or anything here, I just mean take the time to be decent to people that you know make the effort for you, but for the others, just leave them off.

    As for your second example, to be fair to him, if you didnt know him and you were chatting online he probably liked the whole concept of you being single and was probably disappointed. However , maybe it was time for him to toughen up that time if he thought that every girl he was chatting to was single.


  • #4
    alias06
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 298 ✭✭alias06


    This thread raises an interesting issue. What is it with people not texting back. I mean I think girls are really bad at this but maybe I think that because I'm a guy. I think its really rude not to text back. I mean it doesn't cost much so why would you not?


Advertisement