Husband with alcohol problem or not

LegacyUser

My husband had a bad alcohol problem six years ago, attended three AA meeting and decided he could handle it himself. For a while all was ok but now its getting really bad again. He's drinking cider every night and I'm finding cans all over the house. Last time he was drinking during work and driving home drunk even though he works in a public service job where he is charging people for this offence. To make a long story short I am an only child and dont have too many to confide in. I have talked to two friends who have been great but I feel I'm on my own. I cant continue like this, it caused me terrible stress last time and also my children but now they are at college and live away from home during the week so dont want to burden them. What steps can I take now. He has no qualms about driving drunk and I'm out of my mind with worry. I told him I was seeing a Solicitor after Christmas but he laughed in face and said he doesn't have a problem and I am the problem. I did everything to get him help last time but he refused so wont go down that road again.

hornyfemale

I feel really sorry for you but I know that won't help. Sounds like he has a problem.
Is there anyone who could help you stage an "intervention" of sorts. How about his family or friends? You shouldn't have to deal with this on your own. There is also an organisation called al anon for the families of alcoholics. They will be able to give you more advice than I ever could www.al-anon-ireland.org

Overheal

he is a serious road hazard, first thing. You need to take away his keys or frankly, have him pulled over and breathalyzed. Better than killing himself or someone else, and it happens more than we'd like to admit out on the roads. do what you have to so that he is only a danger to himself. Right now he is a danger to himself and everyone he encounters between home and work.

Whynotme

If he laughs while he puts others in danger, pick up the phone and report him. It doesn't matter any more what job he has, he is under the same laws as the rest of us. No more covering up!

For yourself, go along to an al-anon meeting. His actions are his responsibility not yours. Distance yourself from them. Look after yourself and your children. He can sink or swim.

flahers

Have taken keys on many occasions, problem is he can leave house fine and come home with drink on him, he just cant see anything wrong with it. He wanted to drop my elderly mother home tonight, I said no and told her why and she got annoyed with me even though deep down she knows he has a problem. Going to talk to somebody in his work about it next week.

username123

OP - you cant take on this burden of worry by yourself. Please go to an Alanon meeting, you will get lots of support and advice there. If you go on like this, worried and upset and feeling alone you will end up making yoursef sick. You cannot control your husbands drinking or behaviour. From the things you are saying he IS an alcoholic. You need to get help for yourself, please go to Alanon - it helps a LOT.