Should I ask him where we're going?

LegacyUser

I'm in my first proper relationship. I had a couple of "relationships" before, but they either fizzled out or I got dumped (poor me!!!). Anyway, I've been with the most amazing guy for five months now. He chased me like mad, insisted on taking me to great places for out first few dates (places I would never go because I would not have the money!) and really tried to impress me. TBH, I like him a lot so I didn't need to be as impressed as I was.

I hope I'm not rambling, here is my problem...He took me out for my birthday a few weeks ago and we had a great night, plus a lot to drink. He told me, when he was a bit tipsy, that he knows I'll never be as into him as he is into me, that he knows he loves me and that I don't love him, but he's okay with that, and that he really feels like I'm the "one" for him.

He hasn't brought this up since, but its playing on my mind because I do love him, but I haven't plucked up the courage to tell him. Is this the "truth juice" effect of alcohol or was it just drunk talk? I don't want to scare him off, but over the past week I can't stop thinking about where we're going. I think he could be the "one for me too, but I am confused as to how to bring this up...I don't want to freak him out. What should I do?

Wibbs

I reckon just say it. In vino veritas, so chances are high he meant what he said. Life is short enough so I would just go for it. I cant see a situation where the outcome would be a bad one TBH.

Colonel_McCoy

Say it ..........said at the weekend to my OH and a relief she said it back

ManOfMystery

You shouldn't have much to fear to be honest, he's pretty much shown you that he's into you, and he's also told you. Can't imagine you'll get a bad reaction.

dublingal80

Talk to him!
Be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you love him. Its been 5 months Ask him if he remembers what he said to you... and take it form there. If you tell him you love him and he tells you he isnt there or he doesnt love you, he is just playing games so cut your loses, but sounds like he is crazy about you and needed the drink for some courage! say it!! LOVE IS GREAT

Miss Fluff

He has laid his cards on the table so if you really love him then you need to tell him that you feel the same! Oooooooh, can't beat a good romance:)

LegacyUser

Thanks, I guess in vino veritas is right!

My other problem is that he is away and won't be back till next week. I am DYING to talk about this, but not over the phone, so I am planning a romantic evening.

If it was the drink talking I will be crushed, but my woman' intuition tells me I may have found the one.....can't believe it so I really hope its true!

ManOfMystery

Drink talking alone is grand, but IMO the actions he's taken also show he's head over heels for you. Enjoy the moment!

LegacyUser

Hi guys,
your comments were all so nice I thought I'd give you an update!
I got a text from him last night saying "I'm here in France but I wish I was with you xxx" which I guess is pretty clear...and he's decided to come back on Sunday, a few days early, so I guess I'll have to get my act together for then!

Trying to get some courage, I never thought it would be so nerveracking!

SarahSassy

Ah he is totally smitten. You are laughing. Just tell him. It will make his month Dont be nervous. Its only 3 little words

Shin Bet

im so jealous dub girl i wish my oh was like that with me
its a well known fact guys say what they really mean when drunk im 100 per cent sure your laughing here

good luck on the night im sure it will be brilliant youre gonna make his xmas come early

Eve_Dublin

dubgir29 wrote: »

Hi guys,
your comments were all so nice I thought I'd give you an update!
I got a text from him last night saying "I'm here in France but I wish I was with you xxx" which I guess is pretty clear...and he's decided to come back on Sunday, a few days early, so I guess I'll have to get my act together for then!

Trying to get some courage, I never thought it would be so nerveracking!

Awww lovely. Good luck OP. I've no doubt it's requited!

LegacyUser

Hi guys,
Thanks a million for the comments, you really gave me a big confidence boost!

Anyway, my BF came back last night. I planned an amazing evening, dinner, wine, the whole lot and it was great-we are one very happy couple!

I just want to say I've read a few threads here about people being sad they are single and wondering if they'll find anyone. I am proof that holding out for someone who loves you is worth it-looking back on previous guys they were not even 1% as good as my partner is. It's true, when you meet someone for you everything falls into place and its like no feeling in the world. I know it can be hard, I've waited a LONG time for him, but I could not be with anyone else right now!