Going out post break up

LegacyUser

I have a bit of a dilemma, posted here a few weeks ago about my boyfriend freaking out about commitment and breaking up with my via text the day after my birthday. Anyway we are supposed to go to a gig next week, I got the tickets but we planned on going together and i know he is probably more excited about seeing them than me. We haven't got back together or anything but I am wondering should I do the good thing and ask him if he still wants to come. My friends don't like tihs particular band and I wud be dragging someone along for the sake of it since i love them but he is a huge fan. My friends think i am an idiot being so nice as to offer him his ticket since he did a pretty ****ty thing. But I just dunno my emotions have been all over the place since this happened so I dno what is for the best. Havent really seen each other since we broke up I don't wanna sound desperate or anything offering him the ticket either was just gonna say something like i know you wanted to see them so the offer is there if u still want to come. What do you think?

That_Guy

The worst thing would be for you both to go together. Things would be very very awkward and you shouldn't even think of communicating with him.
Keep the tickets and go with a mate. Or sell the tickets off and get a few drinks in with mates.

Chinafoot

Be honest with yourself. Do you want to get back with him? If you do, and you can overlook the shítty treatment then ask him if he still wants to go.

If you don't want to get back with him, don't offer him the ticket. If he has even an ounce of cop on he has probably written off the idea of going to the gig or else he has sourced a ticket from elsewhere.

Your boyfriend freaked out about commitment and then dumped you. The lack of contact means he, most likely, still feels this way and has no intention of a reconciliation. You shouldn't waste any more time on this fella. I know thats a hard thing to do but you need to start moving forward. Bring a friend to the gig (I'm sure they'll suck it up for their newly single friend) and enjoy yourself.

MIN2511

It's a gig! Surely for one night ye can overlook your differences for the sake of a gig?

You don't have to get back together, just go to the gig together! Surely ye can do that?

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd say tell him you're going with a mate. You got the tickets so you have the call on it. You should however tell him asap so he can try and get tickets and go with someone else.

Mixedup

Don't offer him the ticket don't contact him to mention the ticket, he knows he isnt going with you, and for all you know has bought tickets for himself and someone else.

I found myself in that awkward position once and we did the awkward pre-arranged thing, AWFUL, he kissed me because he fel he should, as if thats what i was looking for, then neither of us knew where to look. Please trust me on this, just leave him alone, he dumped you, don't contact him.
Bring a friend, you might meet a fellow fan at this gig!

LegacyUser

MIN2511 wrote: »

It's a gig! Surely for one night ye can overlook your differences for the sake of a gig?

You don't have to get back together, just go to the gig together! Surely ye can do that?

this is nonsense.

don't contact him, don't even consider going with him. if he really wants to see the gig he'll get his own tickets.

AnonoBoy

You're under no obligation to give him the tickets if he didn't pay for them.

If you want to be nice give them both to him. But if he dumped you by text on your birthday I'd advise you to just keep them and go yourself or sell them on to somebody else.