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Seriously annoyed

  • 09-12-2009 11:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Heya. I have these two friends. One a guy and the other a girl. I'm fairly close to the guy friend but never really got on too well with the girl friend. Recently, she has been fairly mean ta me guy friend and teasing me about him even though we are not and have never been going out.

    That was fine, we were fairly used to this. Now she has been starting arguement with me about him and being, quite frankly, horrid about it. She completely hates the guy (they had a fairly bad arguement before and it ended up him insultin her and she dumping a bottle of water over his head) and he hates her. After this she starts on different thinks and it has got to the stage that I can't even talk around her without her argueing. I don't know what I did to her but I think that its to do with the fact I still talk to the guy. I'm running out of patience with her and, although I try to ignore her, I'm about to snap and it wont be pretty when I do.

    I know this sounds like shes jealous of me bein friends with the guy but I seriously doubt it because she never liked him nor have the two of us got on too well.

    I tried talking to my other friend about it but shes taking the girls side and I tried talking to the girl about it. She just says "it doesnt matter, just forget about it and leave me alone" when I ask to please explain, she just gets thick.

    What I would love to do is just forget about her but my other friend is taking her side and the teasings bad enough about my guy friend without hanging out with him in school to. I'm in my second last year of secondary school so all the 'friend groups' have been made and I can't stick her for another year and a half.


    Sorry for the fairly long thread but I just really need advice on this before I explode!!


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  • #2
    Princess Consuela Bananahammock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭Princess Consuela Bananahammock


    anom. wrote: »
    ...

    I know this sounds like shes jealous of me bein friends with the guy but I seriously doubt it because she never liked him nor have the two of us got on too well.

    ...

    Nail on head. She's not worried about what you two are, but by what you two might become; i.e. better friends. Not a great deal you can do about it, other than talk to her and be patient. Just do NOT get drawn into any arguments about it.

    Everything I don't like is either woke or fascist - possibly both - pick one.



  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ikky Poo2 wrote: »
    Nail on head. She's not worried about what you two are, but by what you two might become; i.e. better friends. Not a great deal you can do about it, other than talk to her and be patient. Just do NOT get drawn into any arguments about it.

    I seriously doubt it she jealous of me. She has never cared until September what I do. It has gotten to the stage that she glares at me whenever I arrive. And I can't talk without her starting. I could only be asking what class we have next and she'd be yelling.


  • #4
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    If she's the kind of person who will throw liquid on a person, then I'd leave her alone. You can do without that kind of drama queen in your life.


  • #5
    auerillo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 341 ✭✭auerillo


    anom. wrote: »
    ... I'm fairly close to the guy friend but never really got on too well with the girl friend... She completely hates the guy... and he hates her.

    I'm confused. none of you like each other but you are friends?

    In any case, if I had a friend like her I wouldn't consider her a good friend and would avoid or stop completely seeing her.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    She had no friends before us and we took pity on her, thinkin we could show her why she had no friends before and helping her to change.

    I would love to get rid of her but can't. I have no other close friend except the guy and one other but the one other will take her side and, like I said, me and the guy get bad enough teasing for being friends as it is.!


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  • #7
    Fiend-Foe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    I'd much prefer to be a loner with no friends than be surrounded by people who annoyed me and weren't real friends. You keep referring to her as your friend, but she doesn't sound like one at all. I think a lot of people on this forum need to relearn the definition of friend. Friends are people who make you feel good, look out for you, have fun together. Everybody else are just people, some nice, some not.


  • #8
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    OP, am i misunderstanding or are you saying that you can't hang out with your male friend at school because you might be slagged even more for it? I appreciate that you're still in school but come on, a bit of maturity on all sides wouldn't go astray here. Life is far, far too short to waste your time on people you don't like. I understand that the social side of school can be tricky (an all girls school for 6 years, not fun) but there has to come a point where you say enough is enough.

    You know there's nothing between yourself and your male friend so what does it matter if this girl slags you about it? You don't like her so her opinion should mean sweet feck all to you to be honest.

    Cut her off and spend your time with people you like. Theres no reason why you and your mutual friend cant maintain a friendship without you being friends with this girl. And if this mutual friend disappears because of it then she wasn't your real friend anyway.


  • #9
    VinnyTGM
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 827 ✭✭✭VinnyTGM


    Walk away from her next time she start's rambling on.


  • #10
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Chinafoot wrote: »
    OP, am i misunderstanding or are you saying that you can't hang out with your male friend at school because you might be slagged even more for it? I appreciate that you're still in school but come on, a bit of maturity on all sides wouldn't go astray here. Life is far, far too short to waste your time on people you don't like. I understand that the social side of school can be tricky (an all girls school for 6 years, not fun) but there has to come a point where you say enough is enough.

    You know there's nothing between yourself and your male friend so what does it matter if this girl slags you about it? You don't like her so her opinion should mean sweet feck all to you to be honest.

    Cut her off and spend your time with people you like. Theres no reason why you and your mutual friend cant maintain a friendship without you being friends with this girl. And if this mutual friend disappears because of it then she wasn't your real friend anyway.

    Its not just her but everybody. It gets really annoyin and much harder to go out with someone you do like in that way.


    Thanks for the advice though, I'm gonna try talking to her once more and we'll see then. If she does it again then I'll just walk away.


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