Trouble

LegacyUser

I am 30 something and I have never had a girlfriend. Now I have seen threads like this mentioned on here before and usually the powers says that no one knows or they would never tell anyone. But in my case people know. I am not gay( i need counselling i think) but people think i am. When I am out socializing people make remarks. Even people that don't know me that well or know me at all! It might not be people in my companyy but standing at anothet table. Recently it's getting worse. I really feel like becoming a hermit or leaving town. What should I do? The worse thing is that family members are bound to have heard this too. I find it really embarrasing and shameful

kittenkiller

Have you asked your friends about it?
They'd have the best insight into your personality.

petethebrick

Who cares what other people think? Especially idiots in the pub!
Life is short enough without wasting time about what other people's perception of you is.
The most important thing you have to ask yourself is:

Do you want a girlfriend/to be with women etc??

If yes - then do something about it eg Read up books/forum etc discussing how to overcome shyness, approach women and all that

If no - then what's the problem? if you're happy to be single and have no encounters with women then so be it

Take steps to fulfil your own happiness - fcuk other people!

VinnyTGM

petethebrick wrote: »

Who cares what other people think? Especially idiots in the pub!
Life is short enough without wasting time about what other people's perception of you is.
The most important thing you have to ask yourself is:

Do you want a girlfriend/to be with women etc??

If yes - then do something about it eg Read up books/forum etc discussing how to overcome shyness, approach women and all that

If no - then what's the problem? if you're happy to be single and have no encounters with women then so be it

Take steps to fulfil your own happiness - fcuk other people!

Well said.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies. Unfortunately I am I think too sensitive but I find of very embarrasing when people start making jokes about virgins or coughing it out. What if the people I am with hear it ? Also 1 or 2 comments I have heard make me out to be sinister.

WesternNight

Troubled.. wrote: »

thanks for the replies. Unfortunately I am I think too sensitive but I find of very embarrasing when people start making jokes about virgins or coughing it out. What if the people I am with hear it ? Also 1 or 2 comments I have heard make me out to be sinister.

People who make comments like that aren't worth you spending time worrying about it. Next time, walk up to them, and set them straight. Politely, but firmly. That's the last thing they'll expect, and it empowers you rather than them.

I know it's easier said than done, but give it a go anyway.

If ever I hear someone talking about me, or bitching about someone else, I often just look at them in a "have you something to say to me?" way. That on its own usually shuts them up.