Can You Tell if He's Into Me?

LegacyUser

So, to give a brief version of the story. I've been going to this class at night for about 4 months and there is a guy there who is very attractive. There has been flirting since the start and over the last few weeks its been very obvious to each other that we are both into each other.
A group of us were out last Saturday and he was there. There wasn't much talking on the night itself but there were lots of those kind of looks. A few of us ended up back at his place for a few drinks, I was last one standing and we slept together.
Next morning we were both a little embarassed but nothing major. The morning was relaxed and friendly and there was no trying to rush me out of the house or anything. We had a great talk about stuff that is going on in our lives (I've recently broken up with a long term boyfriend and don't want anything major and he had a bad break up with a girl he was seeing for a few years and is still wary of new relationships because of this) and there was lots of honesty.
Then came the "so where do we go from here?" thing. So I said, " well I'm not going to be hugely offended if you don't want to see me again. Yes clearly I'm attracted to you, last night was fun and I'd do it again but I don't want to go and meet your parents or anything like that and who knows you could meet someone great over Christmas". He then told me that he had been seeing this woman off and on for a few weeks and that they had a sate arranged for this weekend but that he'd be telling her then that he wouldn't see her again. He also wanted to know if I was still sleeping with my ex(we lived together and are sorting that particular problem of the house out) and seemed relived when I said no that we hadn't been together like that for ages. He told me stuff like how I make him feel nervous when I look at him "that" way during the classes, I was out for a week and he really missed me and wanted to know if I missed him or thought about him at all, etc etc.
At this stage we'd been talking for ages and although it was nice and I could have stayed longer I said that I needed to go and if he'd get me a number for a taxi that would be great. He insisted on driving me home, kissed me goodbye properly and I said that I'd see him next week and then that was that and I haven't heard from him since.
So now I'm surprised that a) I did want to hear from him more than I thought I did b) want to know if he is into me or Saturday was just Saturday and c) I'll see him tonight and I'm really nervous about it.
All advice appreciated!

kizzyr

Bump! Help for the poor girl maybe. I've none to offer with my own love life being a mess at the moment so I'm hardly qualified to say anything.

ManOfMystery

Well obviously none of us can speak for the guy in question, but to me at least, all the signs are obvious that he is into you.

dublingal80

well you were with him saturday night/sunday and its only tuesday now. I wouldnt get so worried about it. You will see him tonight as you said so just see how things go. Dont act embarrassed or off, just be yourself, thats what attracted him to you in the first place and see what happens

Best of luck!

LegacyUser

So, update. I went to my class last night and he was there (he runs it). We both acted normally and things were the same as always. Then he partnered up with me for some of the stuff and we laughed and it was that kind of relaxed flirty thing that you get when you've actually been with someone. That part of the class finished and he was still around me as I was doing some of the exercises with one of the other girls, laughing at me but not in a mean way, granted some of the exercise things we were doing were worth laughing at.

At the end he came up to me and said " so how was that? Did you enjoy it?" I said yes and he said "you did really well". Then I put my hoody on and said "ok, well see you tomorrow" and that was that.
I'm bloody confused, I will see him again tonight as I do these classes 3 to 4 times per week anyway and I get the impression he likes me and his behaviour on Sunday certainly wasn't the "get out of my house I can't believe I had a one night stand with you" stuff that often happens. I know that he is wary (as anyone should be) of the fact that I've recently broken up with a long (and I mean long) term boyfriend, he has said that his break up left him messed up and that when ever anything gets serious he tends to run for the hills and he is worried about what the class would think and what kind of reputation he may get for himself. When we spoke on Sunday about where we'd go from here I said that we could leave it over Christmas and see how things are after that and he agreed.
So the end point is that I like him, thought (and still do think) that he likes me but I haven't heard from him (although I saw him last night) and so am confused. I wish I hadn't said what I said about Christmas and would like to see him again. I'm not after anything heavy just fun right now.
What should I do? Assume that if he is into me that I'll hear from him? Wait until after Christmas? Ask him to go for a quick drink before Christmas to talk about this?

LegacyUser

Bump.... help would be appreciated please, my head is wrecked with this.

Miss Fluff

unregistered wrote: »

Ask him to go for a quick drink before Christmas to talk about this?

I definitely think you should suggest a Christmas drink. But not on the pretext of "talking about it". Just suggest toasting the festive season and let nature take its course. You will end up ripping the clothes off one another or it will all come out organically in conversation anyway as to where to next.

My two cents is he sounds keen enough and I think the ball is in your court now so no need to go getting heavy. Let us know how you get on:)

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

I definitely think you should suggest a Christmas drink. But not on the pretext of "talking about it". Just suggest toasting the festive season and let nature take its course. You will end up ripping the clothes off one another or it will all come out organically in conversation anyway as to where to next.

My two cents is he sounds keen enough and I think the ball is in your court now so no need to go getting heavy. Let us know how you get on:)

Thanks for getting back to me. I was thinking about this over the last hour or so and think that maybe he is concerned about the fact that myself and my ex will be still living together until after Christmas after all how would I feel about seeing a guy who told me that he'd broken up with his girlfriend but was still living with her for the time being?
Its just been so long since I've been in this kind of situation I feel like I'm just starting out. If I ask him for a drink and he says no its not like it will be the end of me............just be mortified for a while but will get over it I suppose.

Leah-G1

Go for it...lifes too short!

dellas1979

OP
I dont think you should go for it.
He knows you like him and that you are available.
You are doing all the chasing my dear, and in my experience this only leads to problems down the road - i.e. you seem to be more into him at the moment than him into you and you seem to be over analysing everything - like he is your partner or something.

Be cool and if he asks you out/shows more interest in you, then go for it. Just dont think you are doing yourself any favours looking for another relationship after a break-up of a long term relationship where you are chasing the next guy already and as I said above over analysing every little thing.

magneticimpulse

did he break things off with the girl he was seeing? or is that meant to be this week?