Foreplay

LegacyUser

Myself and my other half were wondering how long you guys spend on foreplay. Personally one minute does me but my girlfriend would like a little longer, about ten minutes. Any opinions?

Victor

She's not an electric light that turns on at the flick of a switch, women are more like a diesel engine that needs few minutes to warm up before you take of the brake.

1071823928

the longer the better i think!!

Wibbs

Love Victors analogy:) In general women take longer and indeed for a better experience men could do worse to emulate them. It's more than stimulation for your GF. One reason why viagra and the like don't do much if anything for women. For most guys it's stimulation + response to same = whoopeeee!. For most women its' far more complex than that. Learn about her as a person, as a sexual and sensual person and slow the hell down. Better for you too. Yea as it is you get off, but if you really want to get off? Slow down and listen. You'll hit your spot as well as hers a lot better.

james.xix

It depends, it should vary.

If your in the mood for straight away or a min she should go along with that at times.

You have to lookout for her as well though. I'd be ok with a min as well but do go along with other things!;)

magneticimpulse

It depends. Im a woman and i dont like foreplay at all. My ex found it strange. I was happy to give him foreplay, but I didnt like anyone going down on me and he didnt like doing it, so it was a win win situation.

LegacyUser

magneticimpulse wrote: »

It depends. Im a woman and i dont like foreplay at all. My ex found it strange. I was happy to give him foreplay, but I didnt like anyone going down on me and he didnt like doing it, so it was a win win situation.

i had a partner with similar tastes. minimal stimulation, she would want to go straight to sex. i've also had a partner who would love an hour of oral before even thinking about my penis, which suited me fine. you need to figure out what your lady wants and give it to them. everybody wins. just because you're ready in 60 seconds doesn't mean she should be, and unless she is specifically telling/showing you, i don't think ten minutes is enough. slow down, enjoy it, get to know the girl and her sexual needs.

upmeath

Anything up to an hour. Minimum 20 minutes. I couldn't imagine it being any less. Need to warm things up!

magneticimpulse

sometimes its possible to be less. sometimes you just want a quickie in the morning and have about 5 minutes. im very easy to go with absolutely no foreplay and actually prefer none. So there ya go. maybe thats where i was going wrong?? do men get offended if they dont give foreplay to women? as far as i was told they didnt mind if i didnt want any.

upmeath

magneticimpulse wrote: »

do men get offended if they dont give foreplay to women? as far as i was told they didnt mind if i didnt want any.

I don't think many men would be offended, no. Sex with minimal foreplay is effortless, and I'd argue on those grounds that it's less rewarding. Many men would love to go the whole hog without having to put in the ground work, just so long as they'd had enough foreplay to get hard and maintain an erection. The OP seems to fit in that bracket, and I can think of a couple of my mates who fit that description too. But I definitely think that foreplay increases the pleasure experienced.
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LegacyUser

magneticimpulse wrote: »

sometimes its possible to be less. sometimes you just want a quickie in the morning and have about 5 minutes. im very easy to go with absolutely no foreplay and actually prefer none. So there ya go. maybe thats where i was going wrong?? do men get offended if they dont give foreplay to women? as far as i was told they didnt mind if i didnt want any.

there's nothing wrong with you not wanting any, just remember that the guy involved might want some. works both ways.

shellyboo

One minute of foreplay wouldn't be enough to even think about sex, never mind ready to have it, tbh. I know all women are different, but one minute is practically no foreplay. Ten minutes would be the very minimum.

What the hell kind of foreplay can you do in one minute anyway? Quick snog?

magneticimpulse

no we just used to get straight in there into intercourse. my ex used to think there was something wrong with be, as i was instantly turned on and ready to go immediately. for me penile penetration does it better then any fumbling around. i really dont like guys going down on me and prefer straight intercourse. the guy never had a problem being erect either. so i figured why bother with foreplay. personal choice of course.

IndigoStarr

Foreplay is just as important as penetrative sex.
You and your girlfriend should try lots of different ways to explore each others bodies and prolong foreplay. I know some people see it as hard work, but it's so much fun! Get out of that mindset and see foreplay as a way of pleasuring your girlfriend and her doing the same to you.
And as previous posters have said, women need time to get aroused. Hardly anyone is ready at the drop of a hat.

Faith

It depends what kind of foreplay you're talking about. I get very bored of clitoral stimulation quite quickly, so if my OH was just planning on sticking his hand in my knickers, I'd be happiest with a couple of minutes of foreplay before moving on to the main event. But if you're talking about kissing and caressing, generally being intimate, well I could spend hours at that!

Of course, it also depends on how much time you have, and what you're doing. If you're in bed with no plans, spend longer on it. If it's just a quickie, then foreplay is much less important.

magneticimpulse

I get extremely bored when a guy goes down on me. start to yawn, fall asleep whatever. i find it extremely boring. never mind having to wait 20 mins for that. he is busy down there, and my mind, well, im just not doing anything. im sorry but it just doesnt turn me on at all. i figure women are not all the same and sometimes, some women just dont want it. i prefer to just hope on top and bounce away.

if your having sex correctly, the woman get get lots of clit stimulation from various positions. if she is left there in the missionary position, of course its not going to do anything for her. she obvisously not putting in any work if she needs that long foreplay. try other positions.

upmeath

magneticimpulse wrote: »

I get extremely bored when a guy goes down on me. start to yawn, fall asleep whatever. i find it extremely boring.

That might be the guy's fault. Are they doing it right, or do you genuinely feel nothing when they do it? Have you tried pointing them in the right direction, giving them some guidance?

magneticimpulse wrote:

if your having sex correctly, the woman get get lots of clit stimulation from various positions. if she is left there in the missionary position, of course its not going to do anything for her. she obvisously not putting in any work if she needs that long foreplay. try other positions.

In earlier posts you said that you're different from most women, and you don't like foreplay. But here it's as though women who like foreplay aren't being fully aroused through intercourse. The more time we give to foreplay the higher the overall state of arousal going into intercourse (unless of course the foreplay is muck). Prolonged foreplay sets the stage for very enjoyable, more rewarding intercourse, with intense or multiple orgasms more likely to result. I definitely think the more you try the more you get out of it. Foreplay also increases stamina during intercourse, men are less likely to shoot their loads if they've been in a constant state of arousal for half an hour before penetration, rather than half a minute.

RossFixxxed

How long is a piece of string? Do all girls like oranges?

Different people like different things, and foreplay can mean a weird and wild variety of things! There's no hard fast (ha ha) rule on this, so to say woment need 18.6 minutes of foreplay is foolish. Talk to the boss and see what SHE likes, not a weirdo like me off the Internet!

magneticimpulse

each to their own. its a personal choice and i really dont like a man going down on me. the fingers etc....not into it at all. so each woman is different. we dont all need 18.3 minutes of foreplay to get stimulated. its whatever the person likes as the previous poster said.

for me foreplay is like when you go to the cinema. its the boring adverts at the beginning your forced to watch, when you really want to just get to the movie and what you paid for!!

james.xix

An ex of mine used to love straight away as well, was fantastic.
Just taking off her clothes and kissing her was enough to get her going.

It is good to vary it though, if it becomes predicatable, it can get boring.

Work on different positions as well, usually spices things up as well.