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Try get over him or not?

  • 07-12-2009 6:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Going unreg for this, to make it short, I am still in love with my ex, it's been about 8 months since we ended things but there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about him, I miss him so much and would do anything to get back with him. We are still friendly and would always speak when we see each other. The problem is that he has a new girlfriend now, who he has been with for a few months. We have ended up together 4 times since he has been with this girl, and even though he has told me these times that he still loves me and misses me, he has always gone back to her....the thing is, I just can't take it anymore, I just want to be with him and what I need advice on is - I will see him over Christmas, he will not be with his girlfriend - do I tell him how I feel and take a chance on him maybe considering leaving her for me? Or do I just try to forget about him? I am so down over this, I just feel like I need to try one last time. Sorry that I went on for so long about this but I really don't know what to do.


Comments

  • #2
    james.xix
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 180 ✭✭james.xix


    8 months is a long time to be longing for him back.

    You’ve hooked up with him 4 times but he has not gone back to you. It would appear to be all he wants. If he wasn’t happy with his current he would leave her for you if he wanted you back.
    If he was happy with his current gf though, he would not be going back to you.
    He won’t be with that girl for you and probably meet someone else.

    You’d be doing yourself a big favour if you accept ye’re not going to get back together, if ye did it would unlikely work out.

    I’d like to wish you the best on moving on with your life, you seem to be a nice person, I’m sure you’ll find the guy who will have all the time for you and you likewise.
    :)


  • #3
    Beetlebum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 837 ✭✭✭Beetlebum


    Breaking up with someone you love is one of the hardest things in the world. I understand that you're feeling down but I really think you need to snap yourself into reality and push yourself to move on. It's time to let go.

    Think about it, for the past few months you have pining for this guy but he has been going out with somebody else in an effort to move on. He went back to you a few times whilst with her which makes him untrustworthy and a cheat. By the sounds of it you would give your right arm to have him back and would end a relationship to be exclusively with him, he clearly does not feel the same way about you.

    You need to cut all contact with this guy and leave yourself open to meeting somebody new who will love you as much as you love them. While you're still hung up on your ex (who's unavailable and not in love with you) you are missing out on meeting the guy you're supposed to be with.

    I know it's heartbreaking but the sooner you cut contact and start focusing on yourself and on being happy, the sooner you'll heal and move on.

    We've all been there and we all thought we'd never get over it but everyone comes out the other side stronger, wiser and clearer about what they want from life/in a partner.

    Surround yourself with good friends, eat lots of chocolate, get a new haircut and a pair of killer heels, do whatever it takes to cheer yourself up.

    Also, the timeline is different for everyone. Some people get over relationships in a matter of weeks, for some it takes years. You will get there one day, that's all that counts.

    Be strong girl and admit to yourself that you deserve more then this.

    Ask yourself this - Do you truly believe he's madly in love with you? If the answer is no, then ask yourself this - Do you deserve and want to be with someone who does?

    Take care


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