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Falling for a friend..

  • 07-12-2009 2:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    there's a girl i have been good friends with for nearly 3 years now, we talk online nearly everyday and know eachother really well. we rarely see eachother in person but when we do we always get on well and spend the whole night out talking to eachother.


    up until recently, we were both in on off relationships and we had helped eachother through them by giving eachother advice, i think this is what made us so close, we knew we were purely friends. but she has been single for a while now and in the last month i have become available. since then our talking has in intensified and i have completely fallen for her, i think she's perfect for me.

    i have been getting hints from her that she likes me too, this sounds childish but on facebook i came out number 1 in her perfect partners, she immediately asked me to do it and when she wasnt number 1 she was playfully acting upset, and she has brought it up more than once since. then the other day she was talking about a bad date she had been on, she stopped and said her little sister thinks we should go out, apparently she always says it to her, i said maybe we should and we joked about her not being my number 1 again.

    i would love to give things a try with her, but i wouldnt want it to go badly as i would lose probably my closest female friend. also, i dont really know how to properly suggest going on a date together as we've joked about it a few times now, i want to ask her seriously, can anyone give me advice on how to do it?


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  • #2
    The Recliner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,630 ✭✭✭The Recliner


    It is simple

    Ask her out, suggest going on a date, if she laughs it off tell her you are serious

    If she doesn't want to or thinks it is a bad idea take her at her word and drop the subject

    If she is just nervous about messing up a friendship she might get over this in her own time and will probably broach the subject with you again, if she just isn't interested in you in that way then accept that and try and remain friends

    Losing a friendship is a terrible thing but losing out on possibly suitable relationship is worse, you should give it a shot, if you handle it well you will lost nothing and gain much more


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