Penis size vs being in shape?

LegacyUser

Straight to the point, broke up with a guy I was with for a a few weeks who was in great shape but had a less than impressive penis size (no I didn't just break up with him for his penis size, we didn't really have much to talk about)

Had a drunken one night stand with another guy who was fairly out of shape but turned out to more than made up for it in the trouser department.

Both are texting me now and i've made it clear that i don't want to be in a relationship right now but i'm not opposed to just hanging out the odd time. Both seem up for it as i think they like the idea of an almost only physical relationship for the short term.

Am I wrong in feeling more attracted to "guy number 2"? Forget the personal side of things for now, I'm only talking about my physical attraction cos I am feeling kinda bad that this one guy clearly looks after himself and what he eats but I'd much rather jump into bed with the guy who probably sits on the couch with a pizza every other night of the week but has a big "car"

dudara

You like who you like. Don't try to be superficial about it.

Victor

1234567_890 wrote: »

i've made it clear that i don't want to be in a relationship right now but i'm not opposed to just hanging out the odd time. Both seem up for it as i think they like the idea of an almost only physical relationship for the short term.

Surely there is a big difference between "hanging out" and a "physical relationship"?

shellyboo

So, you're asking if, for a sex-only relationship, you should pick a guy with a small penis because he's not fat?

That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

Pick the guy with the bigger penis, obviously, and stop trying to talk yourself out of liking him because he's put of shape. Jesus.

Meh keep looking. You shouldnt have to think so hard about being attracted to either.

shellyboo

I think she IS attracted to the 2nd guy Moonbaby, just scared to admit it because he's not conventionally attractive. She seems ashamed that she prefers the fat guy to the hot guy.

There's no dilemma here at all. She would rather sleep with guy no. 2... Only thing stopping her is a ridiculous non-issue.

It doesn't sound like she is using attraction as a basis for her physical relationship with either. It seems to me that she is only interested in either out of boredom. She didn't even mention sexual satisfaction, just size.

Of course if she is genuinely worrying about the opinions of others, your bang on.

But to be fair obesity is hardly a non issue. It is a limiting factor sexually.
I don't think it is unreasonable to be less inclined to take that on. Especially if your only interested in sex.

LegacyUser

Obviously pick the guy with the bigger penis if its sex only, easy.

Liam Byrne

I can only imagine what way this conversation would go if it was some guy being so shallow as to compare breast or waist sizes or whatever.

In an effort to add something helpful, I'll add this : which do you have more fun with ? A bigger hurley doesn't make someone a better hurler ?

But it sounds like the OP is more conscious about what other people will think if she's with a "fit" guy.

OP - do you have small hands ? Long fingers ? Or big or small lips ? What would you think of a guy that decided to forego a relationship with you on that basis ?

cruizer101

shellyboo wrote: »

So, you're asking if, for a sex-only relationship, you should pick a guy with a small penis because he's not fat?

That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

Pick the guy with the bigger penis, obviously, and stop trying to talk yourself out of liking him because he's put of shape. Jesus.

Do girls here not usually agree on the fact that when it comes to sex penis size isn't far from the most important thing, or have you been lying to us just to boost our confidence.

I agree if its just for sex and guy 2 is better at sex then go for him, and don't let the fact he is a bit overweight worry you.

But if guy 1 works out and keeps fit that might be a whole night of sex rather than a quick one before too exhausted.

When making your decision don't let what you think others will think of you matter. Base the decision on whats best for what you want.

LegacyUser

Ha, this is funny.

I went out with a guy who had a belly and a small winky and we had the best s*x life ever because I was so madly head over heels crazy in love with him. I thought he was the most gorgeous man ever.

Darthhoob

if it's a FB kinda relationship then you pick the guy you want to have sex with most. doesn't need to be about looks or personality really. just who is better in the sack.....regardless of penis size.

nice to have a choice tbh LOL

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One word: Threesome.

STUBBORNGIRL

i would honestly say after being with both types of men that it doesnt matter about penis size! its all about the sex - which one is better at it! who can keep you going the longest! which one excites you most! just because a guy has a small willy doesnt necessarily mean he wont make up for it in the bedroom! Otherwise as someone else did point out get someone else who you are both physically attracted to and is brilliant in bed -that would help

Jumpy

username21 wrote: »

Ha, this is funny.

I went out with a guy who had a belly and a small winky and we had the best s*x life ever because I was so madly head over heels crazy in love with him. I thought he was the most gorgeous man ever.

I couldnt help but read that in my mind as Stacey from the X-Factor.

On a serious note though, why do people need other people to validate their choices?
You know which way you are leaning, you dont need the internet

Eve_Dublin

cruizer101 wrote: »

Do girls here not usually agree on the fact that when it comes to sex penis size isn't far from the most important thing, or have you been lying to us just to boost our confidence.

No. It depends on the woman. No general rules apply to attraction. Same for men. Big boobs does not equals sexy but some men believe this to be the case.

Eve_Dublin

Liam Byrne wrote: »

I can only imagine what way this conversation would go if it was some guy being so shallow as to compare breast or waist sizes or whatever.

In an effort to add something helpful, I'll add this : which do you have more fun with ? A bigger hurley doesn't make someone a better hurler ?

But it sounds like the OP is more conscious about what other people will think if she's with a "fit" guy.

OP - do you have small hands ? Long fingers ? Or big or small lips ? What would you think of a guy that decided to forego a relationship with you on that basis ?

But sexual relationships ARE shallow. She´s not looking for a relationship, just hang out and have sex (FBs). Liam, I´ve no doubt you have certain preferences when it comes to the physical aspects of a lady. To dump someone because she doesn´t fit the bill is shallow but if it´s just sex, then you get to choose.

LegacyUser

cruizer101 wrote: »

Do girls here not usually agree on the fact that when it comes to sex penis size isn't far from the most important thing, or have you been lying to us just to boost our confidence.

Hmmm ....MOST of the females I know say size matters.

Victor

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

She´s not looking for a relationship, just hang out and have sex (FBs).

Opinion suggests this doesn't work.

shellyboo

cruizer101 wrote: »

Do girls here not usually agree on the fact that when it comes to sex penis size isn't far from the most important thing, or have you been lying to us just to boost our confidence.

I agree if its just for sex and guy 2 is better at sex then go for him, and don't let the fact he is a bit overweight worry you.

But if guy 1 works out and keeps fit that might be a whole night of sex rather than a quick one before too exhausted.

When making your decision don't let what you think others will think of you matter. Base the decision on whats best for what you want.

Lads, seriously. What tripe about overweight people. I'm fairly overweight and I've never once in my whole entire life been "exhausted" after one bout of sex. Ask my ex-boyfriends... I've worn a few of them out, big guys and thin ones.

It's not like running a marathon, people, it's the most gentle aerobic exercise you could possibly undertake.

Fat people are not necessarily bad in bed because they're less fit. Unless his mobility is severely limited by his weight - which I doubt, since the OP merely mentioned him being 'out of shape' and not 'immobile due to his massive size' - then he's just as capable of all-night lovin as anybody else is.


As for does size matter - not really. But if you have a choice, then you're gonna go for the bigger one, right? Why choose the less pleasurable option?

kjl

shellyboo wrote: »

I think she IS attracted to the 2nd guy Moonbaby, just scared to admit it because he's not conventionally attractive. She seems ashamed that she prefers the fat guy to the hot guy.

There's no dilemma here at all. She would rather sleep with guy no. 2... Only thing stopping her is a ridiculous non-issue.

OR

she is attracted to the fit guy, but knows she's out of his league.

kjl

shellyboo wrote: »

Lads, seriously. What tripe about overweight people. I'm fairly overweight and I've never once in my whole entire life been "exhausted" after one bout of sex. Ask my ex-boyfriends... I've worn a few of them out, big guys and thin ones.

It's not like running a marathon, people, it's the most gentle aerobic exercise you could possibly undertake.

Fat people are not necessarily bad in bed because they're less fit. Unless his mobility is severely limited by his weight - which I doubt, since the OP merely mentioned him being 'out of shape' and not 'immobile due to his massive size' - then he's just as capable of all-night lovin as anybody else is.


As for does size matter - not really. But if you have a choice, then you're gonna go for the bigger one, right? Why choose the less pleasurable option?

yeah, when you're lying there and taking it. You don't have to keep at full mast, if you are overweight then blood doesn't flow as freely, meaning you suffer from soft erection. Add to the the fact that someone who is fit and thin probably doesn't drink meaning their stamina is better.

So actually it does make a difference.

Smallbit

kjl wrote: »

yeah, when you're lying there and taking it. You don't have to keep at full mast, if you are overweight then blood doesn't flow as freely, meaning you suffer from soft erection. Add to the the fact that someone who is fit and thin probably doesn't drink meaning their stamina is better.

So actually it does make a difference.

This is sort of true. My b.f is fairly chunky - big chest, bit of a belly. Since he started walking or cycling to work regularly, I've definitely noticed a difference! He's still not what you'd consider in shape, but there's a difference in stamina.

and the penis size thing to me isn't really relevant unless it's either very small or very big. Current b/f is probably on the smaller side but still sort of in the average range and I honestly can't tell the difference between him and my ex who was bigger. I would only really notice the difference with extremes of sizes, although when the lights are on, a bigger one does have visual appeal!!

my advice to the op is pick the guy that maks you feel good - though I couldn't really do the fb thing, so maybe my advice is biased.

LegacyUser

Jumpy wrote: »

I couldnt help but read that in my mind as Stacey from the X-Factor.

On a serious note though, why do people need other people to validate their choices?
You know which way you are leaning, you dont need the internet

I don't need to validate my choices, I'm just looking for advice. If everyone sways one way, it doesn't mean I'm definitely gonna pick that way, I'm just trying to get advice cos i'm really confused.

Thanks for all the responses 2 + I'll try answer everyone;
Best I can say, i know it doesnt help the argument too much with the first point, is that both are just about as good as the other in bed all things considered and each can keep me happy. Neither would be happy to know I was sleeping with both of them on a FB stint but would probably be happy to know I was their FB and maybe I had the occasional one nighter. I don't wanna try have both of them as a FB at the same time, that'll just confuse me further about who to text when i'm in the mood.

There's been a lot of talk about extremes etc. so here's as specific as I can get w/o going into too much detail (I didn't have my measuring stick handy). Guy number 1 is about 6 inches, has a six pack and a chizzelled ass, arms and chest. Guy number 2 is about 8 inches and has a beer belly + small arms but is not "fat". Both are about the same looks (and yes as I'm typing this, I feel shallow as a worm's grave but that's why I went anon).

Guy number 2 is who I was swaying towards only cos of I've never had a willy that big before and it's fun to play with. Guy number 1 would be my definite pick if we were gonna be seen out together on the beach as girls would be throwing themselves at him and he'd be mine!

I'm just confused as some nights I fancy the body builder muscles holding me during. And some nights, I just wanna play with the big willy. But I don't wanna have a FB thing with both of them. I know, it's confusing but I'm a girl, sue me!

Thanks for the advice!!!!;-)