This girl in my class keeps staring at me

LegacyUser

hey folks, im a regular boards poster albiet not a regular PI poster i'll go as annon, so right im in 2nd yr of college, theres only one girl in my class, and a good few guys, last year i was friends with this girl during the first semester and we got on decently, study buddies etc when needed, we were like lab partners in 2nd semester, never really "close" friends etc, and i dont think ive had feelings for her or i have "fancied" her as such (okay i'd do her hes hot but thats besides the point really), she has always had a boyfriend, last year she had this random guy i only met once, didnt talk really, and now shes going out with this guy whos in my class and i was friends with at some point in 1st year, also should mention i was kinda fat last year but did loose weight/get buff over the summer (well not BUFF exactly, but did put on some muscle etc, its noticeable most guys in my class comented on it, except her obviously), and also need to mention that she is alot better looking now than she was last year.


*problem*
she keeps staring at me when ever i look up, when i talk to a teacher ask a question etc, she will ALWAYS turn around 180 degrees and stare at me, if shes sitting like in the same row she will look at me from time to time, in some classes such as computer labs etc its alot more obvious, i havent talked to this girl AT ALL, this year, maybe like once or something just to say hi etc., we never had a falling out etc in first year or anything like that.




*cliffs*
-i was friends with a girl(X) in my class last year
-keeps staring at me in the class/giving me "the look" even though her bf is in our class
-i havent talked to her at all this year even though i was friends with her last year
-i lost weight/got fit over the summer, most guys in class complimented on it etc, she hasnt said anything
-she also looks better than she did before, new hair do etc, i didnt compliment (and also didnt notice at first until this guy in my class pointed it out and she was sitting behind me and i apparently said "oh lol i didnt notice" but didnt exactly say it facing her)
-one of my close friends has also pointed out she has been staring at me etc.



sorry if my story was boring, or cliffs were too long, any idea on how should i deal with the situation, i dont wana go out with her etc, or ruin her relationship with her bf, im actully kinda interested in this other girl im seeing and will probably be making it into a relationship, and the thing is that girl(Y) is best friends with this girl (X)'s younger sister but neither of them know that i know the other girl etc.

cowzerp

As you dont want to take it any further just leave it alone, no good will come of you making anything of it-you's barely talk so its not an issue unless you want it to be.

wolfric

I'm not really sure i get the problem here... do you want her to stop?

Try to catch her eye when she looks at you and look at her confused or in the manner of "What...? or yeah?" double take as if you think shes trying to get your attention and raise your eye brows up high as in "can i help you?"
Pretending to perceive her stares as something less than they are might indicate to her that it's not working and she may give up (embarrassed or aware you have no intention of eyeing her back)

Taltos

1 of 3 things

1 - she fancies you but is too busy with her other boyfriends right now and is just making sure you are ready for her.
2 - she is wondering - wtf - we were friends last year and now you're ignoring me???
3 - You are just focusing on how she is with you - does she look at others like this?

If her staring at you is off-putting - enter the classes a bit later and sit to the front of the class so you can't see her. But - again - why have you not at least said hello or gone for a coffee?

My bet is 2 and a bit of 1. Possibly liked you as a friend and is confused by you actions.

Mackleton

Plus from a female perspective, if she is interested in you, nothing will drive her more crazy than being ignored.

LegacyUser

Taltos wrote: »

1 of 3 things

1 - she fancies you but is too busy with her other boyfriends right now and is just making sure you are ready for her.
2 - she is wondering - wtf - we were friends last year and now you're ignoring me???
3 - You are just focusing on how she is with you - does she look at others like this?

If her staring at you is off-putting - enter the classes a bit later and sit to the front of the class so you can't see her. But - again - why have you not at least said hello or gone for a coffee?

My bet is 2 and a bit of 1. Possibly liked you as a friend and is confused by you actions.

thanks for your reply, well we were only "close" in like 2nd half of first semester last year, did go to shop or get coffe etc, and actully hang out, she even used to give me lifts/pick me up in the morning/ drop me off in the evening, then out of the blue it stopped, i didnt call her out on that, then the guy shes going out with used to live like 2 doors down from me and she started giving him lifts etc (after a while, cuz first it was just her giving me lifts even though he lived closed, didnt come with us i even asked her to give him a lift or something but cant remember why it fell through i think he used to walk up etc with some other guys) so thats prolly how they started going out, and after that i didnt really bother talking to her etc even though she was my lab partner and sometimes had to work togather but we pretty much divided our work and the internaction was minimal

cliffs
- she used to give me lifts but not him even though we lived close
- she stopped giving me lifts and started giving him lifts
- even though we were lab partners we tried to minimize the interactions and divided up the work to achieve that (thats how i feel)

Taltos

OP - love the cliff notes v retro.

Just say hi to her.
See if she wants to go for a coffee.

It could be she was into you - but maybe got tired of waiting for you to make a move. I have seen that in college. I have also seen the girls who could not be alone - only you can tell if she is one of these - if so be careful there.

LegacyUser

Taltos wrote: »

OP - love the cliff notes v retro.

Just say hi to her.
See if she wants to go for a coffee.

It could be she was into you - but maybe got tired of waiting for you to make a move. I have seen that in college. I have also seen the girls who could not be alone - only you can tell if she is one of these - if so be careful there.

thanks :P haha well im a regular on bodybuilding.com misc and its annoying when people dont post cliffs after an essay haha

she does seem to come across as a boyfriend hopper even though she was with her ex for a long time and has been with this guy for like 6-8 months+ and the other day i was standing with some other guys and she came over and the other guy asked her where she had been and she was getting some tests done because something was wrong with her spleen or something and she said it pointing to her right abdominal area and i said "well your spleen is located on the left side" and then she started kinda singing "to the left" by beyonce which i thought was like o_O, i dunno if i can like ask her to hang out that blatantly + semester has ended, its just exams left


cliffs
-she did jump ships rather quick between her last relationships
-started singing "to the left" by beyonce when i said her spleen is located on her left abdominal area (was bieng kinda serious didnt mean to make fun of her or mark her as dumb etc)