Out of work and feel worthless.

LegacyUser

Hi hows it going? I suppose this isnt a huge problem compared to some people who are not well or have relationship problems or addiction problems but none the less its a problem for me.

Im out of work and just feel so worthless, Im desperate for work but just cant seem to get a break. I am applying for jobs and not getting any feedback what so ever! Even if I was getting some acknowledgement or whatever but im not. I know that I am not the only person in this predicament but when I see people like my friends getting work who to be fair, without running my friends down have no where near as good as experience or as good as qualifications. One of my best mates, who never held a job for more than 6 months and has had 17 different jobs since we left school, ( hes 24) getting a job in the post office I was delighted for him, because he will have a few quid for christmas and hes up to his neck with debt, but at the same time I was jealous and just felt completely worthless!

And with christmas around the corner im starting to panic, im at my wits end! How am I going to buy presents and all the other trimmings that go with it? It is just a bit over whelming to be honest I just dont know what to do.

Any Help or advice guys, thanks!

Kevster

Hi,

Your problems are just as important as the next person's; and you're NOT worthless in any sense of the word. I cannot give you a job but i can suggest to you that you try to at least have something each day that 'forces' you to get up and go somewhere. I know only too well that having nothing to do is a bad thing. You could directly appriach a volunteering agency (i.e. in person) and ask them to give you something to do - There are always people in need.

You're a victim of the recession and the greed/incompetence of those who have triggered it. You're not guilty of anything (except maybe thinking too low of yourself). So - again - I want to reiterate that you are NOT worthless. You have lots of potential and skills that someone out there needs.

Be very proud of who you are and what you can do.

Take care,
Kevin

LegacyUser

job/worth less wrote: »

Hi hows it going? I suppose this isnt a huge problem compared to some people who are not well or have relationship problems or addiction problems but none the less its a problem for me.

Im out of work and just feel so worthless, Im desperate for work but just cant seem to get a break. I am applying for jobs and not getting any feedback what so ever! Even if I was getting some acknowledgement or whatever but im not. I know that I am not the only person in this predicament but when I see people like my friends getting work who to be fair, without running my friends down have no where near as good as experience or as good as qualifications. One of my best mates, who never held a job for more than 6 months and has had 17 different jobs since we left school, ( hes 24) getting a job in the post office I was delighted for him, because he will have a few quid for christmas and hes up to his neck with debt, but at the same time I was jealous and just felt completely worthless!

And with christmas around the corner im starting to panic, im at my wits end! How am I going to buy presents and all the other trimmings that go with it? It is just a bit over whelming to be honest I just dont know what to do.

Any Help or advice guys, thanks!

dont panic, just remember theres another 400,000 odd of us at the moment. What I have found is you really need to tart yourself up more than you think is decent, really sell yourself. If you have applied for loads of jobs and have got no where you need to change the pattern. If you can find someone to help you with your cv well thats a good start. If you can afford to pay for it, well push the boat out, if not, try Fas or someone. Maybe you are applying for the wrong type of jobs? I dont know your experience, but I'm quickly realising that i will not get the same level of job or pay as I have been used to(worked in construction) so have started looking at using my experience in other industries but at a lower level.
Right now the last thing you need to worry about is other people and their "expectations" of what you should do. Only spend what you can and try and accept that.
Maybe the people you are looking for work from can sense your own sense of worthlessness? You are not worthless, you are a valuable person and you need to get this across to others. A strong sense of self worth is very important if you want people to believe in you. Learn to be comfortable realising what your strong points are and telling other people about them.

LegacyUser

I've been unemployed for a few months now and I find myself making stupid comments about being a sponger on the dole when I'm talking to people to cover my embarrassment. Even though most of us unemployed people diid nothing to cause our circumstances we still feel guilty and less important than our employed friends. I hate the sympathy my friends are showing me as well, which is stupid I know as they're just being nice. You do think they're feeling a bit superior to you though!

I'm really trying to stop myself doing this and you need to as well. It is not our fault we are in this situation and our luck will turn again. Keep sending out the C.V.s & use every contact you have to try to get a new job. It's really disheartening when you dont even get a reply to all the job applications but eventually one of those applications with be successful and we'll be back in the workforce.

In relation to Christmas, I've already told people I'm buying token pressies this year for a few euro and most people have said they expect nothing from me. I will get small things however for them, even if it's just to make me feel "normal"

Keep your spirits up. 2010 has to be a better year!