new gf v old gf !!!!

solar energy

hi all

i was just looking for some advice please..
next weekend my boyfriend is preforming at a gig. It is for his local community and alot of his old school friends are attending, one being his ex girlfriend!
I have never met her, she went out with him for 5 yrs and ended with her cheating on him!! Needless to say my bf avoids her at all costs. we're not going to stop her from being there, however, how do I act with her??, being the new gf. i dont know her and to be honest i dont want to know her.

so without being a bitch or just plain ignoring her, how do you think i should approach the situation???

thank you for taking time to read this and i hope you will offer a suggestion.

xx

krudler

Show up looking amazing, be friendly and polite if you do by any chance need to talk to her at some point during the night, even if he tries to avoid her she may approach ye, make sure you give him plenty of attention without going overboard, make her see what shes missing out on

...or just scream "he's mine now bitch!" across the room, whatever works

Aurora Borealis

A simple hi if the opportunity presents itself would probably suffice.

magneticimpulse

if she cheated on him, she prob has a new boyfriend or completely moved on. i wouldnt worry about it. sometimes ex's have to work in same company etc and they get on. the less of a scene or issue made about it is the way to deal with it. he is dating you now, so dont worry

amdublin

Like an adult.

Just say hi and leave it that.

What else would you do

phic

As hard as it is, try not to see her as "the ex", but just another person. You're probably inclined not to like her because she hurt your boyfriend, but just stay calm and be nice. And don't try to compete with her. It's not a competition, you already have they guy, and she probably doesn't even want him anyway.

seahorse

solar energy wrote: »

we're not going to stop her from being there,

That's kind of a strange attitude. It's not your or your bf's business to stop anyone going anywhere.

solar energy wrote: »

however, how do I act with her??, being the new gf. i dont know her and to be honest i dont want to know her.

I don't think you need worry about acting any way with her and I certainly don't think you need expect that she'll be concerning herself with her ex. After all, if she'd any real interest in him she wouldn't have gone looking for it elsewhere in the first place.

Liam Byrne

phic wrote: »

You're probably inclined not to like her because she hurt your boyfriend

Actually, I'd point out that if the ex hadn't done this, the OP and the guy in question might never have gotten together. So it could be argued that she did you a favour.

phic wrote: »

she probably doesn't even want him anyway.

Well if she did she shouldn't have cheated on him.

OP, what's the problem here ? The fact that she's there ? The fact that she hurt him ? The possibility of you still viewing her as being "competition" ?

Because if it's the first 2, there's nothing you can do about it. And if it's the 3rd one, why would he want someone who betrayed him ? You've nothing to worry about there.

Just basically don't even let it register that she's an ex of his - just another friend/acquaintance/whatever.

solar energy

thank u all for your replies.....

Most of what u have advised me were my instincts at first, i just needed to know that these feelings were ''normal''??
Ur right, i wont see her as the ''ex'' anymore, she is just a person.. and to be honest i dont think she'd be the type of person i would want to know in the first place, so thats why i think i had an issue.

thanks again