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How many rejections can a girl take?

  • 05-12-2009 5:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    So, Im having a reaccuring problem in my life. And my friends just dont get it.
    Im a single girl and Im 18. Im really try with guys. I really do. But I feel invisible to every guy I come across. How many rejections are a sign there is something wrong with me?
    Not every guy can want to be "just friends" ,im sory if there r other posts lyk this but this is making me really depressed. I dont feel a bit attractive. Even when I want a guy friend, they dont want to be my friend even. I just want to feel loved. Mayb this is about more than havin a boyfriend, but its the biggest void 4 me.


Comments

  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,290 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    I know this is gonna sound such a cliche, but it is true. You're 18. You have so much life ahead of you and when you look back on yourself now from the distance of say 5 years, you will be surprised at the changes and the things that have happened in the interim. I know not exactly rocket science but as I say true.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    i know how you feel. 10 years later and im still looking for relationship. managed to get an 8 month relationship. the rest was crappy 2 dates here and there. hoping the next one will be the "one" as really cant afford to wait another 10 years. it can be really difficult to keep motivated.especially when everyone seems to get into relationships and your stuck behind. get out there and join clubs, be happy and dont try so hard. ;o)


  • #4
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    In the same boat OP, except I'm male.

    I'm not sure what to advise you, other than to try and focus on other things and not on trying to get yourself a boyfriend. I know it's hard not to think about that when everyone else seems to find a partner without even trying.

    Perhaps that is the answer though, to not try and just forget about it for a while. That's what I hear people say but it's easier said than done, especially if you haven't had a particular load of success in the past.

    Just focus on some other stuff, like your job, or whatever you're studying (I'm guessing you might still be in college or something seeing that you are 18). Plus 18 is very young, try not to worry about it.


  • #5
    paddles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 440 ✭✭paddles


    as the others, girl. you are only 18. i've recently ended up single--again and i'm 36! :( wouldn't mind being 18 again. enjoy your life, do things u enjoy. it will happen!


  • #6
    kittenkiller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭kittenkiller


    I'd have to echo the sentiments of the posters before me.
    Only to add that perhaps you're trying too hard.

    Get to know the guys around as friends first before desperately trying to bag yourself a boyfriend.
    Also have you tried going out with girls that you don't feel as invisible around?
    If you don't feel confident you won't come across as confident and therefore won't stand out.

    Best of luck.


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