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I feel so alone

  • 05-12-2009 11:26am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I'm going to go unreg'd for this.

    I'm a 25 year old guy, finished college a few years back, just started a new job in the summer and moved into a new apartment. I get on grand with my colleagues and my housemates. However, the people I work with don't go out much as they are older and neither do my housemates.

    I'm beginning to get really depressed. To the point where I often now end up going out alone and drinking to the point where I get smashed. It's not good I know and I usually end up more depressed the next day.

    I just feel like there is something or someone missing in my life. I see all these couples around me and now most of my friends are in relationships and I'm alone. The thing is Ive never ever had a girlfriend, the first time I kissed a girl was when I was 22 and I didn't have sex till I was 23. I just feel lost with the whole situation. What is the point in working, earning money and building a life if you have nobody to share it with. I'm not just after sex, I would really like some companionship.

    The thing is I am now at the point where I can't just go out pubbing and clubbing during the week trying to meet girls (I wasted that opportunity when I was at college) and the social side of work is not existant. I would just like to meet someone but don't know where to start. How does someone in my situation go about meeting girls? I am getting close to resigning myself to the fact I will die sad and single.


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hey dude,

    Im 26 now and seem to have also lived a 'different' life than most of my peers. Right now, I live on my own in an apartment in the UK and I pretty much have no urge/drive to start going out to get to know people better here. I also have little interest in sex and would rather just find companionship. Anyway, have you definstely explored all opportunities regarding people who you could go out with? Could you reconnect with people from school even to go out?

    The positive thing is that you clearly want to go out. Some - like me - actually prefer to be alone but still want companionship (which sounds counterintuitive). I hate to sound so cliched too, but have you considered joining a class/course that runs on saturdays or weekday-evenings? Be aware that these courses are typically comprised of people who are also alone and looking to connect with others (but also have people who are genuinely interested in the course too).

    Kevin


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