Go to my sister's fiance's stag party?

vorbis

Fairly minor PI but figured I would get better responses here than in AH.

I would know him fairly well but wouldn't be that close to him. The guy organizing his stag has asked me if I want to go. Honestly, I haven't a clue.
I like weekends away as there's a bit of craic. In a way though, I would be seen to be representing my sister so I don't want to upset the dynamic of the weekend. Whats the general protocol on this?

[-0-]

I went to my sister's husband's stag. We had our issues in the past, but he offered and it would have been rude to say no.

seamus

Stag weekends aren't necessarily exclusively for the nearest and dearest. Especially for men, it's just a night/weekend of boozing and craic, you don't need to be particularly close to the stag to attend.

Find out what they're doing - if they're doing a weekend and the plan is to just get ****faced, then maybe go for one night. Otherwise just go and have a bit of craic. There should be no weirdness, you'll find that everyone's up for having a bit of fun and chatting.

Beetlebum

vorbis wrote: »

Fairly minor PI but figured I would get better responses here than in AH.

I would know him fairly well but wouldn't be that close to him. The guy organizing his stag has asked me if I want to go. Honestly, I haven't a clue.
I like weekends away as there's a bit of craic. In a way though, I would be seen to be representing my sister so I don't want to upset the dynamic of the weekend. Whats the general protocol on this?

Aw, I think it's really considerate that you've think twice about it.
If it sounds like your kinda weekend away then go and enjoy yourself. I can see why you may feel a bit weird but his friend wouldn't have invited you if he thought you'd upset the dynamic. If he's soon to be your brother in law there will be plenty more nights out with him so just enjoy it..

helimachoptor

Yeah Op go along, you'd be surprised that lads you do bump into at these things! A guy in work was telling me he went to his brother in laws stag, they had booked a house in Wexford for the weekend so this guy was thinking "yes massive session" He got there late and all bar one of the lads are playing on the Xbox's they brought with them while one lad is sitting in a room getting mashed by himself!

The 2 boys headed off to the local while the lads appeared in the door at mid night :rolleyes:

Overheal

Youve been invitied ---> Go.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Does your sister mind if he goes to a stripclub? Are you going to keep quiet if he does it anyway?

implausible

My two brothers went to my husband's stag (dad was invited too, couldn't go), he wouldn't have dreamed of having it without them. They all had a ball and everyone knew everyone at the wedding. It makes it a lot easier in the future too if they're up visiting, as they now know all the boys.

It's a win-win, unless it's not your type of thing.

cafecolour

I work in a hotel, we get stags every weekend. They frequently have brothers/father of the bride in attendance, especially bigger ones. They also often have disparate groups, so I wouldn't worry about being the only one who doesn't know everyone either.

Just, obviously, don't relay any stories back to your sister.