Anyone not like traveling Solo?

modest_marie

Hi Folks,

My fear of not going traveling solo is that I won't like it, that I won't meet likeminded People, that I will be lonely, and it will be a disaster.

Has anyone that has traveled solo not liked it? I get the impression from most of you on here that you were nervous, but now you would do it all again.

I've wanted to travel solo for years. (But am worried about it, and it's frustrating and holding me back) I've traveled for a year, Oz/Asia with an ex. But it's not the same in a couple. I want to meet new People every day. Do different activities with groups of new People, and choose what I want to do when I want to do it.

I also want that feeling of acomplishment of knowing that I only depended on myself to get me from place to place safely...:)

So has anyone regretted traveling solo? Or are there any places maybe a Girl should avoid for first solo travel out of curiosoty?

Gaz

It all depends where you go ... if you go to south east asia you will rarely be alone, if you do the Wadi Halfa to Khartoum route of Northern Sudan chances are you will be alone. Where are you thinking of going ? Most places have an established "trail" , which you can easily veer off when you really want to go solo.

Ive travelled both ways and they both have there plus and minus's ... one thing is for certain though, you will regret it if you dont go.

modest_marie

Gaz wrote: »

you will regret it if you dont go.

Yes indeed I will...

I'm not exactly sure where I want to go. Thinking in the Asia direction. But have seen Singapore, Thailand, Laos, and Malaysia.

India is of big interest to me. I love trekking and adverture stuff so to speak. Perhaps New Zeland too although I haven't looked into it much in terms of what I would like to see.

It's more the experience of traveling Solo I'm after, along with taking in the things I want to do and see.

I'm not a shy Person, but I'm not a screaming from the rooftop type either. Is it still really easy to hook up with People? I found when traveling in a couple, it was really hard to meet new People, apart from couples. Or People seemed to steer clear because they assumed you didn't want to talk to People.

You know what I mean? As a solo Person, it's easier to meet People?

Gaz

Again it depends where you are ... I was in India for 3 months and up north in the trekking areas, Agra and Goa it is very easy to meet people. But if you go to the less well travelled areas its going to be more difficult Kolkatta and below I didnt really bump into any other backpackers. Not to say that is a bad thing either.

Sometimes its great not meeting anyone other than locals.

If heading to Asia my highlights would be India/Nepal , Laos , China and Mongolia.

Valmont

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macca1983

modest_marie wrote: »

Yes indeed I will...

I'm not exactly sure where I want to go. Thinking in the Asia direction. But have seen Singapore, Thailand, Laos, and Malaysia.

India is of big interest to me. I love trekking and adverture stuff so to speak. Perhaps New Zeland too although I haven't looked into it much in terms of what I would like to see.

It's more the experience of traveling Solo I'm after, along with taking in the things I want to do and see.

I'm not a shy Person, but I'm not a screaming from the rooftop type either. Is it still really easy to hook up with People? I found when traveling in a couple, it was really hard to meet new People, apart from couples. Or People seemed to steer clear because they assumed you didn't want to talk to People.

You know what I mean? As a solo Person, it's easier to meet People?

Nobody wants to hang or travel with a couple - both are going to be on best behaviour as their significant other is around.

Very easy to meet people when travelling solo - my biggest problem was fellow single travellers - i tended to avoid them after a while (yes i do see the irony there). I found them to be strange and on the run from something eg after a few pints they will start blowing on about some issue from back home and drag you down. Some can be very clingy and really should not be travelling alone.

I have heard travelling India as a Western lady is not the best idea - not sure how true that is but that is what i have heard.

milkado

macca1983 wrote: »

Nobody wants to hang or travel with a couple - both are going to be on best behaviour as their significant other is around.

generalizing about couples?? I went travelling with my boyfriend and we made loads of friends...and not just other couples!

macca1983

milkado wrote: »

generalizing about couples?? I went travelling with my boyfriend and we made loads of friends...and not just other couples!

I am generalising yes! We are guilty of it from time to time!

modest_marie

Traveling in a couple, I did make lots of friends. But we avoided dorms etc, so didn't meet as many as I would have liked!

Anyway... my concern is because I'm kind of a quiet Person. I mean that in a way that I'm grand, except I don't ever usually draw attention to myself! And I love that about myself. But I will meet People regardless of whether I'm someone that shouts all the time, or whether I'm just a normal Irish Girl doesn't crave to be the centre of attention??

Valmont

macca1983 wrote: »

my biggest problem was fellow single travellers - i tended to avoid them after a while (yes i do see the irony there). I found them to be strange and on the run from something eg after a few pints they will start blowing on about some issue from back home and drag you down. Some can be very clingy and really should not be travelling alone.

While I did meet some really cool awesome solo travellers just like me, I did find that there were some unusual characters like you mentioned. Strange isn't it? I guess you're right, some people aren't cut out for solo travel. I think enjoying ones own company is very important even if you are always meeting people because, ultimately, your route is completely self determined.