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Lonely Girl

  • 02-12-2009 9:58pm
    #1
    cd1985
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24 ✭


    Hey all,

    Myself and my boyfriend of 3 years broke up 3months ago, it was tough going there for a while but i thought i was getting over it. We want to remain friends which is hard coz he is seeing someone else now.

    Lately i have been feeling really lonely and down. I can't stop thinking about what it was like to have a bf and having someone there all the time, company etc.. Just feeling really confused about this now. I kinda know i made the right decision in breaking up with him but i do really miss having him around.

    What i am wondering really is if the lonely feeling goes or will it stay until i meet someone else, which i can't see happening at all!

    This was my first serious relationship, i have never broken up with someone i was in love with before so i have nothing to compare it to.

    Thanks for listening anyway x


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    What i am wondering really is if the lonely feeling goes or will it stay until i meet someone else, which i can't see happening at all!

    It passes - when it ended with my first gf two years ago. We had been going out for the guts of 3 years, I thought I was in love, and I was deveasted at the time. I was probably in the same boat as yourself. But at some stage, you have to 'decide' to stop thinking about it and convince yourself that you are in a better place. In my case, that was largely through getting involved in various activities and socialising with friends - just stuff that means you aren't thinking about your predicament. Sure, you'll still wake up in the middle of the night, stare at the ceiling and wonder is this is, but I am a strong believer in occupying your time to stop people moping. Join clubs, do courses, play sports, whatever, just don't be sitting around thinking about it.

    Oh yeah, and avoid him like the plague - at least until you are well and truly over him. You are doing yourself no favours by seeing him happy.


  • #3
    mitsy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35 ✭mitsy


    hey there break ups are hard no matter what the circumstance and there is always that feeling of vulnerability and lonliness. Believe me it does pass of its own accord whether you meet someone or not. You are moving onto bigger and better things in your life and that includes love life too. As they say there are plenty more fish in the sea. There is alot of fun and adventure to be had so just enjoy yourself. Focus on the things that you enjoy doing and the feelings of lonliness will be gone before you know it.

    Best of luck and know you are not alone in these feelings!!


  • #4
    SweetDreamer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭SweetDreamer


    your now one relationship closer to finding the fella who you'll love so much, u wont be able to spend a full day without and eventually you'll spend your whole life with. Meanwhile, you've got the blessing of being single for a while so you can go out and have some fun without being tied down. You'll find your Someone- no worries- it just wasn't him this time around.


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