jealous guys?

eggshells

Would it make a guy jealous if he text you (~10pm) and asked if you'd like to meet him in a pub and you said you would meet him in the pub if you were there early enough or else see him in the club and then you arrive with another guy (friend) and when he meets you you are dancing through the crowd with your male firend, holding hands in the air and singing along to the music!

Later on the guy that asked to meet me in the pub, seen a ring on my middle finger and questioned whether it was an engagement ring....jokingly I said it was bought for me by a very special guy....would these two incidents combined cause a guy thats interested in you to change his mind?

minidazzler

Yeah it would make someone uninterested or pissed off TBH.

When you get asked on a date why would you bring a friend?

Karmafaerie

There's no real way to say.
Not all guys are the same so they all get jealous for different reasons.

I've never been the jealous type myself, and a girl I was meeting could be surrounded by a group of guys and it wouldn't bother me.
If i thought she was trying to make me jealous by it, then it would annoy me, and turn me off her, but not jealous.

At the same time, I have a friend who'd freak out at the thought of a girl he was seeing having a close male friend, and would get really pissed at the sight of her dancing with another guy.


It all depends on the guy you were meeting.

I'd be more pissed off than anythin.. You don't really sound worth being jealous over.

eggshells

Deleted User wrote: »

I'd be more pissed off than anythin.. You don't really sound worth being jealous over.

:eek: fair enough! why would you:p be pissed off then? maybe jealousy is not the right term? :P

krudler

eggshells wrote: »

Would it make a guy jealous if he text you (~10pm) and asked if you'd like to meet him in a pub and you said you would meet him in the pub if you were there early enough or else see him in the club and then you arrive with another guy (friend) and when he meets you you are dancing through the crowd with your male firend, holding hands in the air and singing along to the music!

Later on the guy that asked to meet me in the pub, seen a ring on my middle finger and questioned whether it was an engagement ring....jokingly I said it was bought for me by a very special guy....would these two incidents combined cause a guy thats interested in you to change his mind?

Definitely, you sound like a gameplaying headwrecker, why would you joke about wearing an engagement ring? surely the guy now thinks you're engaged? or does he know otherwise?

eggshells

eggshells wrote: »

:eek: fair enough! why would you:p be pissed off then? maybe jealousy is not the right term? :P

I think jealousy would be a bit strong of a word yea.. If nothing had happened between ye before, I'd say he felt like he got led on and would maybe be embarrassed.

What was his reaction for the rest of the night?

eggshells

Deleted User wrote: »

I think jealousy would be a bit strong of a word yea.. If nothing had happened between ye before, I'd say he felt like he got led on and would maybe be embarrassed.

What was his reaction for the rest of the night?

We had kissed before and texted for a few weeks. He seemed a bit annoyed at first and seemed like he didnt want to talk to me at all but then moved to a different area in the club with me and seemed to be his usual self for the rest of the night. Then stopped all contact from the following day.

eggshells

krudler wrote: »

Definitely, you sound like a gameplaying headwrecker, why would you joke about wearing an engagement ring? surely the guy now thinks you're engaged? or does he know otherwise?

I didnt say it was an engagement ring! I was flattered he even questioned the ring as an engagement one and didnt take his question seriously I guess. He may know that Im not, Im not sure....he just stopped talking to me for a couple of months. Met him out recently and he might have guessed im not....with no fiancee in tow? So I should have specifically apologised for my actions or does this add insult to injury?

krudler

eggshells wrote: »

I didnt say it was an engagement ring! I was flattered he even questioned the ring as an engagement one and didnt take his question seriously I guess. He may know that Im not, Im not sure....he just stopped talking to me for a couple of months. Met him out recently and he might have guessed im not....with no fiancee in tow? So I should have specifically apologised for my actions or does this add insult to injury?

Well what finger were you wearing it on? you told him someone special bought it for you and he assumed it was an engagement ring, ergo, he thought you were engaged/leading him on/messing him about, and just because he saw you without an imaginary fiance, are all engaged people not allowed out on their own? you messed this guy about, he moved on, lesson learned

wylo

if you want to meet him again you'll have to explain everything you've just explained here, he barely knows you, your meeting him in a club cause you didnt put in the effort to meet him in a pub, when he finally does get to meet you (bare in mind he was probable looking forward to this, or even slightly nervous considering you brushed him off a bit by not being at the pub), you are dancing , smiling, singing and holding hands with another guy.
Then to top it off when he asks you about the ring you manage to make a bad joke considering what just happened ( I presume it was a joke?), if not , its even worse.

What the hell do you want him to think, I doubt hes jealous, id say he has just lost interest.

eggshells

krudler wrote: »

Well what finger were you wearing it on? you told him someone special bought it for you and he assumed it was an engagement ring, ergo, he thought you were engaged/leading him on/messing him about, and just because he saw you without an imaginary fiance, are all engaged people not allowed out on their own? you messed this guy about, he moved on, lesson learned

middle finger....but i said its handy cos it fits on other fingers. He said show me which other fingers it fits so I put it on my engagement finger. See I was thinking about it from a ladies perspective, sometimes it can be useful to have a sparkly ring you can place on your engagement finger in the case of unwanted attention....:( true engaged people can go out alone.....but all the time??? like he has never seen me with someone else! So best leave it now? or maybe try to explain? I just feel a bit awkward bringing it up....chance itl make things worse...by making the assumption he still cares?

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Why did you do it?

Liam Byrne

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Why did you do it?

+1. Like most things, if they're misunderstandings they can be gotten over, but if there's an agenda or reason then it'll mean someone ain't worth the hassle.

Like others above, I wouldn't get jealous, but if I thought someone was playing games to make me react then I'd reckon they weren't worth my time or effort.

So what was your motivation, OP ? Were you trying to piss him off or get one up on him ?

Agent J

World of difference between Jealous and changing mind.

I wouldnt be jealous but i would change my mind.

Immediatly.

Sean Quagmire

Agree with all the replies. He's doesnt seem jealous, I'd say you just wrecked his head. Plenty of that type around.

BTW was your 'friend' gay by any chance? if he wasn't then theres another reason for that guy never to bother with you again because its clear you were trying to stir a bit of jealousy.

Penn

eggshells wrote: »

Later on the guy that asked to meet me in the pub, seen a ring on my middle finger and questioned whether it was an engagement ring....jokingly I said it was bought for me by a very special guy

This would have caused me to lose interest too. That "joke" would have been funny to you. To me, I'd be thinking:

a) She hasn't answered my question
b) What 'special guy'? Ex-boyfriend she hasn't gotten over yet?
c) Why did she specifically say 'special' guy, and not just 'somebody bought it for me'? She specified 'special'
d) She's playing games. I'm outta here

Deedsie

I wouldnt call it jealousy, but id lose any interest i had in you previous to this.

Libertewhite

paddyirishman85 wrote: »

This would have caused me to lose interest too. That "joke" would have been funny to you. To me, I'd be thinking:

a) She hasn't answered my question
b) What 'special guy'? Ex-boyfriend she hasn't gotten over yet?
c) Why did she specifically say 'special' guy, and not just 'somebody bought it for me'? She specified 'special'
d) She's playing games. I'm outta here

This would be going through my mind too. If I had any notion a girl was trying to get me jealous, I'd walk away straight away. Have even left a girl in a club because of this childishness. I can't stand it...whats the point.

eggshells

I certainly had no intention of making him jealous. This was not my intention. It was just a situation i found myself in. The guy i was momentarily dancing with as i manouerved through the crowd is an old friends brother.

Sean Quagmire wrote: »

Agree with all the replies. He's doesnt seem jealous, I'd say you just wrecked his head. Plenty of that type around.

BTW was your 'friend' gay by any chance? if he wasn't then theres another reason for that guy never to bother with you again because its clear you were trying to stir a bit of jealousy.

Not gay as far as I know. immediately prior to dancing with me he had triedholding my hand. It was just an awkward situation that I got caught up in. I didnt expect my friends brother act the way he did at the point in time and then bump into the guy i was supposed to be meeting. I immediately stopped dancing,,,but i think that just made me look guilty? anyway i was never given a change to explain the scenario....a case of crossed wires if you ask me...:( i really wish i had explained who my brothers friend was now tho.....from the responses im getting it seems most people would see it in a very black and white way...that im a gameplayer....and so that must be what he thinks too

Thanks for the feedback everyone...:)

I'm a girl and I imagine behaving like that would make me come across as an immature headwrecker. The dancing is dodgy enough - but could be explained away as being drunk, but what's with the 'someone special' comment? Why would you say that? I might say that to someone I really didn't like and wanted to leave me alone, not someone I was interested in! You said you meant the 'someone special' was your little brother......come on. You knew what you were implying by that comment.

If the guy was with friends he was probably really embarrassed as well. He probably told them he liked you and wanted them to meet you, then you arrive dancing with another guy and making silly comments implying you have a boyfriend. I'd say you've completely blown any chance you might have had.

Johnnnybravo

OP I wouldnt call it crossed wires at all. wHAtever about the dancing, not being straight up about the ring and saying a special guy gave it to you was a very bad idea. Why even do that??

It defo would not cause jealousy, more why the hells she meeting me if she has a "special guy" Id go more with mind games and not something most blokes would want to get involved in.

Infact the answer to the ring question killed it a whole lot more than the dancing thing.

Id say going forward dont try mindgames and silly trick answers to straight up questions. Sorry if thats harsh but Im not even him and that silly ring answered has bugged me.

wylo

OP if you really like him get onto him and humbly apologize. Just say 'sorry for the way I was acting the other night, it was sad and ridiculous. If your in any way still interested would you like to meet up properly'

Your getting slated here but you seem genuinely sorry for acting like that, all is not lost if you can admit to him your behavior was ridiculous.