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bad temper

  • 02-12-2009 2:23pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi all i am going unreg for this i have a bad temper and it is starting to affect my life i have had this for along time. Im married and and i have a beautiful loving caring wife who i adore and does not deserve this from me,i have suffered from depression at one or two stages in my life. About a year ago i had a arguement with my wife and my temper got the better of me i threw stuff around, shouted and broke a door, all of which i am not proud of, my wife left our home for a while and i signed up to some therapy which specialises in anger management i got some great advice and help with this at the time but i am finding things difficult at the moment and i had a bad day yesterday and my temper got the better of me again, this time i did not break anything i got mad and started shouting and throw some keys around it was all over nothing in the end. My wife has said that she is scared of me and wanted to leave but we talked about it and she has said that she is scared that i might do some harm to her [i would never do such a thing ] and she finds that when i go off on one of my rants that this is a form of abuse i am looking for some advice have people gone through the same thing as me and what advice would they have.


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  • #2
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    When you feel yourself getting really angry go for a walk or do something that you enjoy, could be anything like music or reading or playing games or excersise etc... I fly off the handle as well (use to be much worse though) and this does help a lot. After a while you'll automatically remain more calm when things dont go to plan. Requires a bit of effort though.


  • #3
    Overheal
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    are you still doing the therapy?


  • #4
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    bad temper wrote: »
    [i would never do such a thing ]

    maybe not now, but if you lose it, who knows?

    all you can do is reassure your wife that you are doing everything possible to control your anger. If you're not still in therapy, get back there.


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