Young Confused Man

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Hi,
Going unreg for this one.
I'm nearly finished college. I'm in a relationship for almost a year now. I just sort of drunkenly fell into it but its been better than any previous relationship.(I've spent about 1/2 to 3/4 of my college time in relationships) Whenever I meet women when other lads would be glad to kiss or more with them and then move on i always seem to go down the relationship route... its just what seems natural at the time.
Now I feel myself longing to be single at times and it all started a few months ago. I was perfectly happy and then went away for the summer with some friends and so me and my gf decided to do long distance.. I left so sure of myself. And while away I got a lot of attention from women but none of it really bothered me. With one exception. I got to know one girl very well and through circumstance was in her company alot, we both sensed attraction but both held back because we were in relationships.
This tension occurred for weeks until eventually we got drunk and kissed. I was upset and hungover and really regretful but a part of me was sortof glad and wished i could remember it. She ended her relationship a few weeks later(she didn't tell me though I found out) which had been very long term. I was torn and confused and for the next month just wanted to get back to my gf knowing that when i would see her that my feelings would be clear and i would know what to do. After a few weeks of not having met this other woman life returned to normality tho i thought of her the odd time i tried to surpress it. I was doing fine.
Then I met her one night and for the week afterwards my head was all over the place again.. normal again... meet her again, confusion rains supreme! Now I see her on occasion through friends and it just drives me crazy. I just want to know what I should do! I dont want to hurt the girl I'm going out with because she is very special and wouldn't deserve it... and I don't think I really want the other girl but I dont know.. I sometimes feel I just need to be on my own now for an extended period to know what it is i want.
Sorry for rambling on. I suppose I'm just asking for advice and if any of you have been in similar situations?
Thanks for your help

petethebrick

justmadeupnow wrote: »

Hi,
I just want to know what I should do! I dont want to hurt the girl I'm going out with because she is very special and wouldn't deserve it... and I don't think I really want the other girl but I dont know.. I sometimes feel I just need to be on my own now for an extended period to know what it is i want.
Sorry for rambling on. I suppose I'm just asking for advice and if any of you have been in similar situations?
Thanks for your help

Stop being a whiny idiot is my advice!
It's normal to fancy other people when you're in a relationship.
It's how far you let such thought go that matters.
If you can't handle the temptation of other women when you're in a relationship then get out of it.
I've been in your situation before and have been a cheater.
Now I'm much more cautious about getting into relationships - no point doing it just for the sake of it or because you fancy someone a bit.

My advice - spend a few years single and then try relationships again.