What To Do With This Feeling?

LegacyUser

I kind of wanted to run something by people who frequent this board, I've never done so before, but you seem to give good, head-clearing advice.

In these first months in university I've gotten kind of close with a girl. We were involved in a group project and got to know each other quite well, and she also takes two of my modules. She's pretty beautiful, has a perfect sense of humour and is no slouch intelligence wise. In other words, she's attractive to me all round. I get the feeling she likes me too; she compliments my style of clothing, my hair and my grades in class. We've even met a few times outside of university in cafés to help each other study (although, hanging out with her was a big part of it for me too), and we've always had an enjoyable time.

We joke around, drop each other texts and meet up when we can. However, and this is important : she's an exchange student. She'll only be here until January (spending about two weeks of December in Paris), before she returns home, to practically the other-side of the world.

What I'm wondering is, what do I do? I know obviously her staying is out of the question, but even she regrets only signing up for one semester. This is the first time in my life that I've liked a girl, and I haven't been in pain because of it. I'm in a really content, happy space, and I'm starting to see myself grow as a person. (I know, a few months right? But this is the way it feels) We're from pretty different cultures, but we have a weird connection. We bump into each other out of the blue so often; just last night, I texted her to ask how she was, just as she had texted me- and I feel kind of lost in it all.

It doesn't feel like love, but I thought I knew love before, and it turned me into someone far different and more negative than this. It just feels right, creeping up slowly! And to think that someone came out of nothing (I wasn't looking for love at all after past experiences, and certainly not in this fashion) to make me so much happier, could be taken away, is totally ironic. Such is the way of the world it seems.

Again, she's said she wants to meet up for a drink after our exams, and after her holiday, and as much as we can basically. Should I tell her how I feel? I'm not expecting anything miraculous to occur, but his happiness through another person, is something I need to satisfy. It's not even a sexual thing really. I feel like I'm growing for the first time in someone else's light, and I want to know if it's really true- but I also know the basic facts of life, and things go in this crazy world!

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To anyone who has read all that, without dying/vomiting etc., I commend you. If anybody know's what I'm going through and can offer any opinions, I'd be glad to hear them. At least, I got something off my chest.

Thanks very much.

Fiend-Foe

If you tell her and the feelings aren't returned and she just feels that you are good friends, you run the risk of making your last few encounters a bit awkward.

You could wait until she gets home. It sounds like you guys are really close as it is, so you will probably be keeping in touch when she returns home anyway.
This way you can continue to enjoy her company as you have been so far up until she has to leave. Then you can tell her on her return how you feel about her and hopefully if she feels the same you guys can arrange a reunion in the future. You said there's no burning sexual desire that needs quenching before she returns, so this could work for you.

Then of course there's the "life's too short theory". You should tell her how you feel ASAP, because you never know what might happen and could regret it for the rest of your life.

Whatever happens it's going to be difficult, if you tell her before she leaves and she also has feelings for you it's not going to be very pleasant for either for you when she has to return home.

I know I haven't really been any help and just spelled out your options, but really only you can make that choice. Best of luck, I really hope it works out for you whatever happens because the feelings you have described are rare. You don't get that very often.

Anna Molly

I say; GO FOR IT!!

When you're out for this drink after exams, why not? What have you got to lose? If she's texting you lots and you two are hanging and connecting in general, I'd say she likes you too.
At the end of the day, as harsh as it sounds you may never see her again, so what have you got to lose??

GOD SPEED! [:

Overheal

good lord: attractive foreign girl giving you all of the signals?

What the hell is your problem? Go live life. Goodness.

Lumen

Do not rely on your instincts. Signals are culturally specific.

Do not wait for something to happen. Take responsibility for your fate.

Do not wait until the last minute. Some people take time to absorb new information.

I would go for a plain English sales pitch, delivered fairly sober, with as much basic charm as you can muster, but avoiding any kind of metaphors, dual-meanings or lingustic idioms ("It would be deadly if I could jump your bones" could get you arrested).

Agent Smith

go for it, whats the worst that can happen, it be ackward for 6 weeks then she's gone

minidazzler

OP, The only things you will really regret on your Deathbed is the things you DON'T Do.

Just go for it. It could be the best 6 weeks of your life and then it's over. But It will have been the best weeks of your life!

Do it.

LegacyUser

Wow, I really wasn't expecting this many replies! And really, great, helpful replies too. I think I might just have a go, because even if she doesn't feel the same (which I'm starting to feel is increasingly unlikely) at least I know I let it show for once!


Thanks for your help and well wishes guys.

minidazzler

ThisFeeling wrote: »

Wow, I really wasn't expecting this many replies! And really, great, helpful replies too. I think I might just have a go, because even if she doesn't feel the same (which I'm starting to feel is increasingly unlikely) at least I know I let it show for once!


Thanks for your help and well wishes guys.

Good for you OP, I hope it works out for you. Even if it doesn't feel proud you had the balls to try!! Nothing like regretting what might have been had you only asked!!!

Go on ya good thing!