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Am i being too nice to the ladies

  • 30-11-2009 8:00pm
    #1
    whocares86
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 168 ✭✭whocares86


    just wondering about the following. i am a male 29 i have loads of female friends. i would have as many female mates as i would have males mates and ofter head out for drinks with a few of the girls where none of them would be bring out their boyfriends. get on with them so well and would regard one of them as one my best friends . but the problem with this is that when i meet a girl i tend to become mates with them and once or twice i have developed feelings for them but i have said or done nothing because i dont want to damage or ruin our relationship something i value allot. all of other male friends wouldnt do that, they would chance their arm and not give a sh%t .


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  • #2
    Chase Large Neurology
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Chase Large Neurology


    but i have said or done nothing
    Your problem has nothing to do with "being too nice", it's that you haven't ever said a word to them.
    Good relationships can start off with friendships. Ask them casually for a one on one drink/whatever sometime. If it doesn't happen, that's ok, nothing ruined.


  • #3
    entropi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,730 ✭✭✭✭entropi


    And also adding to Bluewolf's comment, you are already seeing these women as potential friends...this wont help at all! You MUST see them as a romantic interest firstly, if things dont go well then maybe over time friendship could develop...but thats not what you want:) You need to let them know your intentions from the off, or you get nowhere...i'm being blunt about it but what must be done, must be done.


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