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This is really strange but...

  • 30-11-2009 7:20pm
    #1
    Astrogeek
    Closed Accounts Posts: 195 ✭✭


    I'm in college and up until this year I was the only girl in my course. The new girl that joined us is...strange. At first we all just thought she was really quiet and made an effort to sit beside her in lectures and introduce ourselfs to her...

    But I was the only person she talked back to... Literally.

    As in when one of the lads would introduce themselves she literally said nothing back...at all.

    It's really weird.

    It feels like such a secondary school problem, but she has made no friends at all, I do feel sorry for her.

    I feel like I should do something as the only person she seems to talk to. I have made the lads go introduce themselves but there isn't much I can do if she does not response.

    I know it's not really any of my business but I have noticed a lot of threads about people finding it hard to make friends at college, so if you were in her boat what would you want me to do?

    We have labs together as a course sometimes and it is really awkward that she refuses to talk to any of the lads.

    And this will probably sound sexist but you cannot do physics if you have a problem with men, like at least with chemistry or biology the split is nearer 50/50.

    So can anyone think of anything I can do to ease the awkwardness? I've never had a problem making friends so I guess I don't understand the issue here.

    I don't like seeing anyone with no friends.


Comments

  • #2
    RealistSpy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,686 ✭✭✭RealistSpy


    To be honest nothing you can do about this kind of people just let her be.


  • #3
    fonpokno
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,375 ✭✭✭fonpokno


    Same kind of problem in my class, repeat student and just won't speak to anyone no matter how hard we try.

    I don't think anything can be done tbh, you've made the effort and unfortunately she's not reciprocating. Some people just want to be left alone I guess.


  • #4
    Killaqueen!!!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,026 ✭✭✭Killaqueen!!!


    Nothing more you can do really. Except, have you tried asking her why she doesn't talk to the guys?

    I know a lot of people find it hard to be sociable and make friends but does she literally just stare blankly at them and not say a word when they try talk to her??


  • #5
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    You might be reading far too much into this here. You seem to take the male:female ratio of your course too seriously (and trust me, as a physics graduate, I'm familiar with where you're coming from).

    Maybe she is one of those people who prefers her own company. Just leave her be, but stay friendly. You've made an effort - leave it at that and take the pressure off her.


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